Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 182

Welcome back to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out!

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As always on a Friday, it’s time to get your blogs linked up to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out and have a read of some other amazing adoption related blogs. There’s no theme this week, so just come along and link your latest, best, worst or favourite blog post below. Share your favourites and comment on those you read.

 



Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 181

Blog posts at the ready, it’s time for the Weekly Adoption Shout Out!

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Hello and welcome back to another week of #WASO. Have your kids gone back to school yet? Or still a few more weeks to go? How have your holidays been? Have you gone away? We want to read all your news in your blog posts this week!

The theme this week is ‘Sun or Storm’. It’s not obligatory but there in case you need a little inspiration.

Anyway, without any further ado, here’s the linky:



Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 180

That time of the week again, it’s the Weekly Adoption Shout Out…

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Yes, it’s Friday and that means it’s #WASO time. Apologies for the slight delay in starting, the children have now been packed off to their grandparents for the day, the dog’s been walked and so I have some time to work.

Now, let’s get started. There’s a theme this week – ‘Fight, Flight or Freeze’ and we’re looking forward to reading your posts. Add them all below and then share, share, share!



Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 179

It’s Weekly Adoption Shout Out time!

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Hope the summer holidays are going well in your house? Are you going away? Have you been away? Perhaps you’ve been blogging about your holiday – if you have then why not link up.

We have theme this week if you want a bit of inspiration – ‘Fight, Flight or Freeze’, take that as you will.

Now without any further ado, here’s the linky:


Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 178

Hello, it’s time for the Weekly Adoption Shout Out to begin!178

Good to see you back this week. Hopefully the delay in starting last week didn’t put you off? Sorry, that we kicked off late – holiday mode began early, and is still in full swing, as we’re both away right now!

There’s no theme this week, so just add your posts below, read, comment and share.

Come back next week for the next #WASO, the theme then is Fight, Flight or Freeze. For now though, get linking below:

 



Summer plans at The Adoption Social

It’s almost Summer Holiday time and indeed for some, the holidays have already started, so we thought we’d best let you know what’s going on here…

We’ve decided to take a break for the entire Summer holiday, giving you just the Weekly Adoption Shout Out each week from Friday to Sunday as usual.

We both feel that we need to re-assess what The Adoption Social means to us, to you, whether we need to branch out, or stop or diversify or…we don’t know, but in order to this about all that, we need to step back completely for a while. July and August are traditionally quieter months for The Adoption Social anyway, so we hope you won’t mind us stepping away for a bit.

However, we will still be around if you need an ear or a shoulder, you’ll find us at @puffindiaries and @boysbehaviour. We started The Adoption Social because of our amazing online community, and we both definitely want to remain a part of that community too – because we still need support and help with our families, and because you know, you lot are pretty nice people!

If you have any thoughts about what The Adoption Social means to you or where you see it in the future, then please by all means email us at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com, and we’ll take your thoughts, ideas and messages into consideration when we think about where we’re going to go and what we’re going to do.057

For now, here’s the dates that we’ll be running #WASO, and their themes:

22-24 July                 ‘6 Weeks’
29-31 July                 NO THEME
5-7 August               ‘Fight, flight or freeze’
12-14 August           NO THEME
19-21 August           ‘Sun or storm’
26-28 August           NO THEME
2-4 September        ‘How do you feel today?’
9-11 September      NO THEME

We’ll be returning week commencing 12th September and we’ll let you know our plans then or shortly thereafter.

Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 176

Welcome to #WASO!

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It’s that time of the week again. Get your blog posts ready, and link up below.

Please do read the others that link, comment if possible and share your favourites. And we’ll do our best to read, comment and share them all too!

If you need a bit of help with joining in, then click here. But otherwise, go forth and add your blog posts (no theme this week!).



A Problem Shared – Family Contact

Today we bring you a problem about family contact, do you have any experience you can share.

A Problem SharedWe have recently made contact with a sibling of our children. We went through the post adoption for the area where our children came from. They facilitated an initial meeting with the sibling for my husband and I. We then arranged a supported meeting for the children with the sibling. The sibling is eighteen and therefore does not require the support of another family member and is happy to work independently. Now this contact has been made we are now being asked to manage it without SW involvement.

I’d like to know if anyone else has been through a similar experience and how they have managed this contact. I want this person to be a part of my children’s lives, however I want to remain in control of the contact. My children are now twelve and thirteen and I worry about them all being in contact through social media without our knowledge. We have very firm rules about internet access and use of the internet but I know as our children get older we will need to give them more freedom. Any advice would be well received.

Summer activities with little planning

I’ve been thinking a lot about the forthcoming Summer holidays. Usually I go with the flow but this year I wanted to arm myself with a handful of activities that I could pull together quickly when the first ‘I’m bored’ calls begin, so I thought you’d like to see it too…

In the garden:

Garden games – It takes very little to get some garden games ready. You can even get the kids involved with the planning and making.

Make some cardboard spots and mark them with different point values – who can score the most with 3 beanbags? Often the children think about different ways they can play the game and they get inventive. BUT you might need to be clear on rules at the very beginning to make this work.

Trampolining a great activity to help with calming down angry children, regulating hyper children, it’s a sensory experience too.

Water fights – get the water pistols out, buy cheap sponges and cut them up, even use old ketchup bottles as squirters. Good for cooling down on hot days. And it provides a nurturing opportunity when getting snug and dry after.

Invite their friends over – yes you might have to supply squash and sandwiches, but it’s a real eye opener watching your children interact with others. And if they’re in your garden, you get to keep an eye. Provide a few footballs, swingball, skipping ropes or pots of bubbles and even the most cool and streetwise 14 year old, will be running around popping those bubbles with the glee of a toddler!

In the house:

Cooking/baking –  yes this can strike fear into the heart of any parent, but it really is great fun for kids and as long as you don’t mind a bit of mess it can be a lovely bonding experience if you choose the right moment.
Whatever your skill level (and your childs) you can have fun with this…rice crispie cakes to homemade pitta bread pizzas, my son (after some sensory therapy) now loves squishing together homemade veggie burgers, and my youngest likes just spreading butter and jam on a piece of bread.

Movie time – grab a few DVDs, whether they’re old favourites or new surprises, make up a bowl of popcorn and bottles of drinks and chill together. This is a lovely way to snuggle, relax and re-charge.

Crafting – again, not everyone’s cup of tea, but even if you leave a pile of paper, some glue sticks and foam shapes on the kitchen table, the kids will enjoy it. You can supervise with a cup of tea whilst they stick each other together, I mean create wonderful pictures, and even if only for 20 minutes, it’s a fairly simple activity that can be enjoyed by various ages. (My children make loads of pictures, so armed with envelopes and stamps we send them as presents to members of the family and then they don’t clutter up my house too much).

Play – lots of our kids struggle to play. They might need some structure in which case you can put out some useful props and sit nearby for help and support…maybe leaving some paper plates out next to a pile of teddies (picnic anyone?), or a half built lego model that can be continued, even a pile of blankets and pegs so they can make their own den. Sometimes that initial prompt can be enough to get them going. For inspiration search ‘invitation to play’ on Pinterest.

Out of the house

Fruit picking – a simple way to get them out of the house but with an end purpose and a healthy snack (who doesn’t nibble a few strawberries whilst picking them?). You could (if you have the time and inclination) make a whole themed day of it…beginning with fruit themed crafts, ending with jam making, or cake decorating with fresh fruit?

Go to the park – Whether your kids are younger or older, the park is light relief. Swings, slides and climbing frames or even a field with a ball. Take a couple of drinks and some snackage, and get out for an hour or two. Arrange to meet friends there if you like, or take a picnic.

Nature trails and walking games – we make nature bingo sheets, just a very simple list or pictures of things they might see on a walk…ants, blue cars, post boxes, the bakery etc and they tick them off as we go. Sometimes we take a camera and they have to take a picture of each thing too. Other times, the bingo card lists leaves and objects they can bring home, so we take a bag or hat with us to fill. This works well with younger children, but you can adapt it to suit whatever age group. This has helped my hyper child focus on something…a big achievement.

Puddle jumping – even on the wettest days, and in fact especially on the wettest days you just need to get out. So pull on your wellies, grab a jacket and go out to jump in puddles. Have fun with your kids!
Before you go, put newspaper down by the door and a pile of towels and pyjamas on the side, so you can get dry and snuggly when you get home.

What do you think? Will you do some of these with your children? What else are you planning? Let us know.

Today’s guest post is from Hayley, a mum of 4 children, 2 of whom are adoptive. They are 15, 12, 7 and 6. Hayley’s children have lots of different diagnoses (ASD, SPD, Attachment problems, FASD and anxiety) between them which are displayed differently in each so she’s well used to juggling activities to suit all or most of their needs at the same time. We’re grateful to Hayley for sharing this post with us.