Sleep deprivation is awful for parents, and many of us go through it, but ultimately it means your child is sleep deprived or unsettled too. This anonymous poster needs some help with night-time waking…
We have recently moved our boy into his new room, and a new bed. We feel his attachment to both of us is sufficient enough for us to push him slightly in a direction that would allow us to make changes that are necessary.
His reaction to his new room (he used to be in with us) has been a lot worse than when he first came to us, and he is struggling to settle. We have now become accustomed to helping him during the night, which inevitably means one or both of us losing at least an hours sleep.
What is worse, is that we are not being consistent with our reaction to his midnight awakenings, and we genuinely do not know what is for the best.
We have tried sleeping next to him on a spare mattress, sleeping with him in or on top of the bed, and taking him into our room.
It is virtually impossible to settle him on his own.
Are we being lazy by not settling him when he wakes properly? Are we making a rod for our own back by one of us sleeping in the same room (even for just an hour)? Or does it not matter – will this simply pass with time?