Today’s anonymous post comes from a mum who is a bit worried about the impending firework season. Can you advise? What do you do on 5th November?
I have an 8 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. They’ve been here since they were 2 and 3. For the most part things are fairly ‘normal’…well, our kind of normal anyway! But we’re coming up to one time of year that we struggle with. Fireworks night.
Our daughter is fine and enjoys herself. Our son crazes us to go to a firework display each year, and then ‘freaks out’. He loves to watch them, but he can’t handle the bangs, or the crowds, and as soon as those rockets start exploding, our son does too. And once he’s in the midst of a meltdown, it kicks up a gear when he realised space is limited and he can’t get out easily. Yet when we’ve suggested not going, or doing a small display in our -fairly isolated- garden he’ll have a complete tantrum and insist we go to a proper display.
We’ve tried standing at the edges, we’ve tried ear muffs/scarves/hats to dull the noise, we’ve tried constant cuddles and we’ve tried several organised displays – big and small but feel that we can’t win whatever we do! We’re not sure how we can turn this into a nice experience for him – we can see and tell that he really wants to go and enjoy it, but it all just becomes a bit too much.
Any ideas would be gratefully received. Oh, and I should say we don’t know anything about his past that would cause this kind of reaction…