Going to High School – A Problem Shared

Today Sarah from the Puffin Diaries expresses her concerns over the transition to high school.

DSC_0370As some of you may already have cottoned on, Stig is off to high school in September. Judging by the tumultuous end of year six, he is very anxious and worried about this prospect with a dash of excitement.

I am also quite nervous about the many catastrophic possibilities that face us. Being proactive I approached a mum I know a little, who already has an adopted son at the high school. She very kindly came to talk to me about a couple of things I could do to prepare us and things to organise when he goes back to school.

I thought I would share these with you but also ask please, please please if you have any other advice I would be grateful to her it.

1. Don’t wait for things to start going wrong go into school, meet the SENCo and tutor as soon as you can and let them know about your main concerns.

2. Ensure that he will be receiving an IEP.

3. Start with packed lunches as the queuing for food can involve a lot of pushing and shoving.

4. Ask if he can have a pass to leave lessons five minutes earlier to avoid being pushed and shoved in the hallway.

5. Check about the content of PSHE lessons to ensure that unsettling subjects can be avoided or prepared for.

6.Find out about lunch time clubs that he can attend to avoid the playground.

7. Enquire as to how his PP+ is to be spent.

8. Enquire about a possible mentor for him.

So those are the things that I have come up with so far. Do you have any other suggestions to ease transition?






5 thoughts on “Going to High School – A Problem Shared

  1. Mrs Family of 5

    We have a year to go and already fretting about this.
    Those tips all sound great! I especially like the ones about avoiding crowds and this is something big girl really doesn’t manage well.
    I’ve wondered about whether i’d give big girl a mobile phone, cheap one with enough credit to call/text home if she needs too. I suspect we’d also be spending the summer making a lot of trips to the new school, some just passing trips and some ‘dummy school runs’.
    I’ll be watching here for more tips and thinking of you all over the next few weeks with my fingers crossed for a smooth transition x

    1. tasocial Post author

      Thanks for your comment. It is a worrying time but I feel we might be able to weather it with the right things in place. I’m not keen on my son having a phone yet as a lot of them have internet access and he has proved he can’t keep himself safe at the moment, plus the school is really just around the corner for us. Good idea to do dummy runs. xx

      1. Mrs Family of 5

        Totally understand that, no way i’d give big girl an internet phone lol I’m hoping you can still get those £10 basic phones otherwise I too may have to rethink that one! 😉

  2. izzwizz

    Having a mentor really helped my son J right from the start. It meant he had somewhere to go at every break where there was the mentor and other children with similar needs. I also met with J’s head of year and spelled out the details of his background and asked her to share this with everyone involved with J. I know not all adoptive parents want to do that but I have always thought it helps for teachers to know and it certainly gets their sympathy. I have always asked J’s permission of course and he has always said yes. I have also just asked him what he thinks helps children make the transition and he suggests bringing something with them that they used from their old school like a pencil case, or something from their old pencil case, as it is a good reminder that it is not all different and difficult. Hope this helps. It is exciting and a bit scarey but hopefully the school will be supportive. Good luck!

  3. Mama Bear

    We asked what they could do when they see Buddy needs a break without drawing attention to him. They suggested he be a note runner. When the teacher sees he needs some time, she will ask him to bring something to the office for her. Even if it’s just a blank paper in an envelop. Sometimes he just needs a few minutes outside the classroom to get himself centred and we’re hoping it will help with his anxiety and make him feel important and useful.


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