Today’s Problem Shared comes from Lindsay who blogs at Grey Street. Have you got any advice for her?
How do you give enough information to teachers/day care staff etc. so that they understand your child’s needs but don’t feel sorry for them?
The day care staff in particular are struggling with Jonathan. I gave them some more general blanketed information, but then had a few conversations about where he’s coming from. They were very interested to learn about adoption and had lots of questions as this was a whole new world for them and they genuinely want to support him and seem to care. They did pass the usual judgements (“how could parents do that to a child?! They should not be able to have kids!” “poor kid!” etc.) and I shared my opinions and thoughts and tried to open their perspectives a bit around circumstances, birth parents and so on. But, I’m afraid in giving so much information, that now they just feel sorry for him and are tolerating some behaviours because of this.
I don’t think I have found the right balance of too little/too much information.
With school recently started, I’m wondering if anybody has any advice on how to handle info giving with his new teacher? I understand they need some information so they are aware of underlying reasons to behaviours, but how much is too much?
How much have you shared with your child’s teacher or childcare provider? Have you found the right balance? Let us know in the comments below…