The problem of pressure from parents is one that many parents face. Do you have any advice for this adoptive parent who is struggling particularly with expectations on potty training?
My parents have been wonderful with our little boy, and he with them. He regularly speaks to them on the phone, chirping in with “Hello Grandpa, Hello Grandma” every now and again. It is wonderful.
Unfortunately our son is so good with them, that I think they have relinquished the thought of him being adopted. This in many ways is a good thing, but it has led them to believe that he should be in a different place – most notably with potty training.
I have been defensive on this subject to the point of actually being offensive to my father, whose brain mouth filter has seemingly stopped. He is resolute in his opinion that the wee man should be potty trained, when he mentions it, my own red mist descends and I can no longer hold my tongue.
My problem is two-fold:
• Should I be making more effort with potty training, even though I am not sure the boy is ready?
• How do I communicate my thoughts on potty training without it turning into WWIII?
Any advice is appreciated, thanks.