Can you help this mum with worries over her sons toilet habits….
Ever since my son came to live with us we’ve had a few bowl issues. He’s never been one to go regularly. We’ve always had to monitor the situation and when it gets to a point, where we feel it’s needed, we intervene with medicine and designated toilet time. I’m sure his inside have been affected in some ways by his start in life but to be honest this physiological side is not the bit that really worries me. We know what to do to get things going and most of the time it works.
When ever we get to point, where he needs a little help, we end up with a lot of soiling. My son now 8 refuses to talk about this or do anything about helping himself. He can often come home from school in a right mess even though I’ve sent him with clean clothes and pants, he wont get changed. I know that his early experiences have probably desensitised him, and in fact I really think the sensation and smell doesn’t bother him too much. He also sometimes smears in his bed and often his fingers are unclean as he’s had them in his pants. I really hoped that as he got older he would become more concerned about this and grow out of these habits. However, as he gets older and things aren’t changing, I am getting worried that this might not happen.
Has anyone else had experience of this? How has it been resolved or what steps have you taken to bring about change?