Meet Me: Fostering Hope Through Adoption

Today’s Meet Me post comes from blogger Fostering Hope Through Adoption – be sure to check out her blog here.

Quick 5

  • Book – The Connected Child By: Karyn Purvis; The Whole Brain Child By: Dr. Siegal
  • Music – NeedtoBreathe
  • TV programme – Parenthood
  • Food – Soups-chili, chicken noodle, vegetable, lentil, minestrone and the list goes on 🙂
  • Pastime – Making blanket forts with my little brother.

 

What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
Feeling helpless when my children are struggling with their pasts. All of the therapy, quality time, and sensory toys will help them cope, but it will never make the hurts disappear. Somedays, I wish I could go back and fix everything. It’s hard.

What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
I wish I would have taken classes on how to connect with a child from a hard place. We are now taking TBRI classes and we have learned so much. I feel like we would have bypassed many hard days and failed attempts at reaching our children if we would have come to the table with more knowledge.

What inspires you?
Helping people improve their health with nutritious foods.

Who inspires you?
My husband. He’s amazing.

Tea/Gin?
Tea

What do you think is your biggest source of support?
My faith.

What do you do to take care of yourself?
I need to do more of this…oops! I do love to learn. often read research articles, books, and blogs. I also love to run. It gives me time to think, reflect, and pray.

What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
If your children were babies, would you go to them when they cried and meet their needs? Treat your older children the same way. Their cries may not come with tears, but may be filled with rage, neediness, or isolation. Be present in every situation. They need you even when it seems like they would rather do anything else then be with you, they need you.

My perfect adoption support would include:
foster moms, adoptive moms, moms with children who have behavioral and/or academic challenges, and older moms who have been through the trenches and succeeded.

When I look into the eyes of my child I see:
fear, but I also see a sense of renewed hope.

The best thing we did this week was…
spending time with our kids around their first bonfire and eating their first s’mores with them.

If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
I would take them to their siblings and allow them to play all day long.

What I hope I can give to my child/Children?
Faith, security, love, and a sense of self-worth.

At the weekend I can mostly be found…
watching one of my kiddos play a sport, at the grocery store, or at church.

What makes you and/or your family laugh?
Singing, “Who Stole the Cookie From the Cookie Jar?”

4 thoughts on “Meet Me: Fostering Hope Through Adoption

  1. Darren Fink

    Kelly, I enjoyed reading through your series of answers. My wife and I also wished we had known about TBRI before we began our fostering and adoption journey with our kids. We are walking advertisements for Dr. Karyn Purvis.
    My parents used to sing “Who Stole the Cookie from the Cookie Jar,” with me when I was younger. It is so much fun watching them sing it with our four adopted kiddos now.

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