Category Archives: Our top 3 #WASO Posts

WASO Top 3 – April

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There is always such a unique array of stories being told on #WASO. Thank you all for being so open, honest and real, we love you all but unfortunately can only choose three each, and here are those three…….

 

 

Sarah :

I was immediately transported to a muddy path beside a bubbling brook in this post. Beautiful descriptions and captivating words describe this family’s moments of contentment.

In this post I can just feel the physical, emotional and mental strain this parent is suffering in the face of such bewildering behaviour. We’ve all been there and are with you all the way.

And finally, thank you to Suddenly Mummy for a post which is both informative, highly thought provoking and left me feeling all stirred up about the plight of social care in the UK.

Vicki:

This post very eloquently describes many of the feelings that surface when you find out that your impending adoptive placement is being challenged. As well as the anger, worry and disappointment, this mum describes the feelings she felt towards birth mum too.

After a panel discussion, this post by Transfiguring Adoption was created to share the thoughts of adoptees when contact is not possible.

3 Pink Diamonds adopted 3 girls several years ago now, but have come to the difficult decision to disrupt the placement of their youngest girl. This post, explains what, why and gives thanks.

WASO Top 3 – February

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More great posts from all you wonderful bloggers again. we’ve managed to choose a selection of our favourites. So without much further ado, here are out top 3.

 

Sarah:

I enjoy reading this blog from across the pond, and can relate this post about a need for some new pyjamas

This funny post is a guest post from  one of our twitter pals.

This post from Adoption the bear facts is a great illustration of the amount of analysing we do as parents.

Vicki:

This post from 2 New Girls feels full of positivity and moving forward, it makes me feel hopeful. I almost wish I had a hall ceiling to paint too.

I have nothing to say about this post from Meandminimees – just…read it.

Chewing is a big issue in my house and we’re halfway through a series of sensory therapy sessions, so this particular post from Tooting Mama caught my eye. Are your children anxiety chewers too?

#WASO Top 3

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More exciting and wonderful posts in December especially around the excitement around the pending Festive Season. However there were also some very sad stories of disruption and family breakdown, we send big hugs to all those having a tough time. We hope our selected top 3 give a varied and eclectic view of all the great posts this month.

 

 

SARAH

Adopted parents often find themselves saying sorry. This post entitled just that, Sorry, is so sad and difficult to read but very much needs to be said and understood.

This post is a little bit more uplifting, it’s the celebration of someone’s mum.

It’s great to following a family from the beginning of their adoption journey, this post is all about a first home visit.

Vicki

I really related to this post about becoming a stay at home mum from one blogger.

This is the beautiful words of a grandmother, excited to meet her grandchild. 

These post on our children’s eating habits and where this might lead is very thought provoking.

WASO Top 3

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Back again with our monthly Top 3.

We try very hard to share the love, but sometimes there are posts which just stay with us, or stand out in the month. In a month where you have written about our themes, “Health Care” and “Making Plans” plus about all the other stuff that goes on for you every day, it wasn’t easy to choose just three each…but here they are.

 

Sarah:

I’ve chosen my first post because to me, it makes hard hitting political sense, so let’s have less talk and more actions

It’s frustrating and hard to read how another family struggle with the bureaucracy of the system, but Permanently in a Pickle does it with such style.

This family have been putting a lot of hard work into getting things right so it is great to see that progress, even if it is Baby Steps

Vicki:

This post from ‘Than The Sky’ talks about touch and shares what has helped them encourage more touch from Buzz.

Mum from Scratch talks about meeting the first parents of her children, and my own experience is similar – it was difficult but the best thing we could have done.

A new adventure has begun at The Family of Five‘s house – wish them luck!

#WASO Top 3 – October

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Once again we look back on a great month of blogs which linked up to #WASO and choose our Top 3. There are always so many great blogs posts to read, which can make it really hard to choose just three each. However as we also do the Adoption and Fostering round-up for Britmums, we get to select more good reads for that post. This month, for the first time we will included our Top 3 on the Britmum’s round-up.

Sarah

  1. Very clever, drawing parallels between household renovations and the making of a fostering and adoption family  “As we live life, we might feel compelled to hang signs around our children’s necks declaring that they are under construction, that the damage was not done by us, nor is it the children’s fault.”

2. There are meltdowns, and then there are meltdowns. I feel very supportive of this blogger and adoptive parent for bravely saying enough and sharing openly their experiences.

3. Whilst this post has a very important message, about the things you shouldn’t say to adopted children, it did remind me of some of the many sticky situations we found ourselves in during the early days of our adopted family, which could now be seen as a little bit funny.

Vicki

My first Top 3 this month is from The Hopeful Dad. I’m looking forward to reading more from this new blogger about the journey this couple is on to become a family.

Depression is a very real and very current issue for me, and CBT is something that I’m investigating, so this post from Families Tied was very interesting for me to read.

This is a post about love. I’ll say no more than that – just read it.

 

 

WASO Top 3 – September

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Another good month for amazing blogs, we always love reading all your blogs. Thank you for joining in with #WASO but here are our top 3

 

Sarah:

This post rang so many bells for me, well maybe a little more for how my husband is. How important is it to win asks Al Coates?

I’m all for the visual and it’s great that this US site can share pictures of her children. It’s so good to see an average day in pictures.

Nicola Marshall of Braveheart Education writes with such wisdom. This post on what we “feed ourselves” is full of wise words.

Vicki:

My first top 3 of the month is this post from Digger Diaries. 20 seconds, it sounds so little, but can feel so long…but I’ll definitely be trying to get more eye gaze with my kids from now on.

On What’s the buzz, Buzzbee, I was really pleased to hear about all the fun things that Buzzbee has been upto, even though they seem scary. What a brave young man to share his feelings.

Some big moments happened for Two New Girls – some whispered words and an announcement of love are described beautifully in this post. I hope the well-deserved takeaway was enjoyed.

#WASO Top 3 – August

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Back again with our top three picks from the past month’s #WASO. Lots of excellent reads, as always, making it hard to select just three each. Thankfully  some more of our choices appear in the monthly Britmum’s round up, so look out for that. So without much further ado, here they are.

 

SARAH

  1. This post about a boy and his bear is so familiar to me. I am always astounded, yet heart warmed, by the affection which can be held for a small, rather raggedy bear so it’s lovely to hear a similar story here.
  2. Great to read news from The Family of Five. Sounds as if they’ve done well with their super long summer break.
  3. I have felt similar family betrayal in my past, as mentioned in this post, and I know I also have issues around trust which can lead to heartbreak. So here on Getting the Right Balance, another post which struck a real cord with me.

VICKI

  1. This post is a reminder to us all of the tiny steps we take which have such enormous meaning in the progress of our children. It made me smile to think this young lady was exploring the power of expression in this post, and then she said.
  2. I love this set of questions which adopters from the  We are Family group are answering. Here’s number one in a current series of 17 posts. Starting off with the question “How and when does your child/children wake you in the morning?” All the way to “What is he piece of wisdom you would pass on to a child?” Well worth a read.
  3. Ground hog day indeed and what a family dilemma, I feel deeply for the decision this family must make.

 

WASO Top 3 – July

 

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More great blog posts in July and thanks to everyone who joined in with our sore points week on contact. We see so many different emotions in your blog posts, sadness, anger, despair, happiness and joy, you share everything. Sharing your experiences we hope helps you as well as the many people who visit your blogs. So without further ado, here’s our top 3.

Sarah

1.This blog post about seeing abandonment from the child’s perspective and the mum’s, really moved me and gave real insight. Thank you Safe Mum for helping me understand just how hard all those changes in school are for our children.

2. It was good to catch up with this blogger, as I know this family sometimes have hard times. In this post, from Three Pink Diamonds and a Blue Sapphire, mum realises that what she may have been experiencing is secondary trauma.

3. Finally this piece tells a beautiful tale of childhood, and then weaves the storytellers new family life into the story. Feast is a great post about the enjoyment of cooking and food.

Vicki

My first post is from Grey Street and is about when Jonathan talked about adoption. I love how these conversations just pop up at the most random of times and we have to be prepared to answer as sensitively as we can.

A lovely announcement is contained in this post from Suddenly Mummy – just reading it made me smile.

From one happy post to one that’s completely opposite. At But All Kids Do That, Wyxie talks about the difficulties in getting support when those who are supposed to support you, are actually blaming you…I think many adoptive parents can identify with this, I certainly can.

#WASO Top 3 – June

top 3It’s always good to look back over a month of #WASO and reflect on which posts you  enjoyed, touched you, enraged you or for some reason just stuck with you long after reading. We have no formula for selecting and we are always very appreciative of everyone who joins in #WASO but hey a little competition is healthy right! Here they are June’s TOP 3.

Sarah

My first post asks, should we celebrate the #bestbits? Not only was it great to read how inspiring and supportive this blogger found hearing about other people’s #bestbits, it was also helpful to read about how others capture those small but amazing moments.

Here, a long term adoptive parent writes about the first words her daughter said to her, on their first meeting, “I don’t believe it”. She then reflects on the many aspects adoption has brought to her life, which she can’t quite believe herself.

Living on the Edge of the World is a blog which I admire greatly, for revealing the harsh realities of life for those, who experience growing up in care. This post also exposes the ignorance of  a local authorities, when looking to improve conditions for those living in care. Angry Face.

Vicki

This post is a touching list of all those little things, two boys do,to let their mum know they love and accept her, How I feel loved in a home where the L word is too scary.

In the past I have loved this blog and it has been so lovely to see Permanently In a Pickle back, with this blog post about the wrong trousers.

With our next Adoption Sore Points week being around contact, this post struck a real chord for me. The Green eyed Monster, reminds us of the very powerful emotions we can feel around the subject of contact.

#WASO Top 3 – May

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We’ve enjoyed reading all your blogging posts from the month of May and we were especially pleased with how many people joined in our special #CPV week. To celebrate we have each chosen a “Best CPV” post, in addition to our top three of the month.

 

Sarah:

My first post reminds me so much of our early adoption days, when you didn’t have a moment in any day to yourself. Whilst things definitely do improve as they grow older and hopefully more settled, I know that ensuring we all have a good day can still leave me exhausted too.

This next post is from a long time contributor to #WASO and The Adoption Social. I always enjoy catching up with Three Bees and a Honey and I especially enjoyed hearing about what gets them out for a walk. Why their furry, four-legged ‘family therapist’ of course.

My last choice had me laughing out loud, so much so, that I then shared it with my youngest son, who also thought it was extremely funny. It’s good to hear these sorts of things happen to other people too, find out more in Puppies,Pants and eerr putting on Weight.

CPV: I want to thank Al Coates for writing this post about safe holding violent children. Hurt is a very honest post about how you safe guard a child, yourself and your home when your child is violent. It is something that needs talking about more.

Vicki:

I just recently came across this blog called Learning to Be A Family, and although short and about sharing a room, this post sums up the feelings around many situations – rage, upset, fear and isolation, that we – as a family – have experienced. I also really like the style of this blog, and hope the writer continues to link up to #WASO.

I’ve always enjoyed reading @adoptingsezz’s blog Dear Daughter, but this particular post caught me as I know it’s something really special and I also know that Sezz will treasure it. Well done Missy.

This post from My Post Adoption Life actually made me tear up a little, because although it’s not something I’ve ever said – I have thought it. See what you think – who is real?

CPV week: Building A Family Together writes about hiding the bruises, and asking for help in this post for our Adoption Sore Point on CPV, I can very much identify with the words.