How to Contribute / Contact us

Our aim is that The Adoption Social is created and led by those in adoption and those experiencing and living with adoption in their lives. We therefore need you to write for us, contribute your experiences and knowledge so that we can pass that on to others and they in turn can support, understand and help you and many more.

The sections in which we are looking for contributions are

Handy Tips and Advice – From parenting tips, to tips on getting through the adoption process, to understanding school application forms. If you have recently done any of these things, chances are, someone else will be going through it too – so share your knowledge and help others.

The Blog (formerly Blogless Blogging) – This section provides a space for anonymous posts from bloggers who don’t feel able to post on their own sites, one-off guest posts or those wishing to try their hand at blogging. Just send us an email with the text you want to share, and let us know whether you want to be anonymous or not.

Me & My Blog/My Twitter Life – Occasional posts from others already using social media; sharing tips, advice and experience.

Meet the Blogger – If you blog about adoption, then please do contact us for a list of questions (interview style) that you can choose from, and we’ll feature you in our Meet the Blogger section.

A Problem Shared – A spot where people can put forward a particular problem or issue, and others can comment or share experiences and advice.

The Review – Have you been on a great course? Read an interesting book? Or perhaps seen a programme or film that features adoption? If so, why not write a review and we’ll publish it online. We welcome ALL honest reviews.

The Weekly Adoption Shout Out – Each Friday bloggers are invited to link up their adoption posts from the week and every second week an optional topic is given to provide inspiration.

What’s in it for you?
We’ll happily add regular contributors to our Contributors Page. This means more people will get to hear about you. And we’ll promote your posts on our Twitter feed, Facebook and Pinterest pages too. We’ll also add you to our Twitter and Blog rolls too so you’ll be featured on the main front page of The Adoption Social. And hopefully, you’ll get a warm fuzzy feeling from sharing your experiences and supporting other people too.

We would also like to encourage people to contact us with any ideas of things they’d like to see on the site, topics to cover or new sections to add. If there is something you want to say but not sure where it might fit in please don’t hesitate in contacting us, we would love to hear your ideas.

So email us at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com or via twitter @adoptionsocial and we look forward to hearing from you soon.

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4 thoughts on “How to Contribute / Contact us

  1. Roger Edwards

    We adopted our son seven and a half years ago. In September he starts senior school as a Year 7 pupil.
    Because of his awful start and years of counselling we are paying for him to go to a smaller private school where hopefully he will thrive. (All our local senior schools have upwards of 1.200 pupils).
    Does anyone know of a grant or financial help that we could tap into to help with his education costs?

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    1. Sandra Zimmerman

      Little B as I shall refer to the chubby faced toddler who entered our home, promptly turned all the parenting techniques that had stood my husband and I in good stead, on their heads. Little B had learned early in life that if he is going to survive it will be thanks to his ability to look out for himself. He wanted no help from anyone. He had very few words, but the one which he used most often was, “NO!” Little B pushed everyone away from him, despite the cost. If not eating the food mom made, kept her from getting to close to him, he would gladly forfeit it for days. If dad wanted him to wear boots in the snow, he preferred stamping about in his sneakers, unmindful of the cold. My husband and I were at a loss to know how to reach this child who came into our home, pushed us away and refused to let us comfort him when he was hurting. In desperation I reached out to his caseworker but she said, “Little B is fine, he didn’t suffer any abuse, he was only neglected. Think how he feels, rather than how his rejection makes you feel.” Her advice while it held a wee bit of truth was not what we needed to hear. We tried therapy and the therapist said, “All preschoolers are independent, let him alone, he will grow out of it.” I shook my head in despair, not all preschoolers screamed for hours when told to use a spoon to eat their soup. So we tried another therapist, maybe this one would have answers. No such luck. Eventually Little B was diagnosed with RAD (reactive attachment disorder) and FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder). We found a good attachment therapist who guided my husband and I in the art of attachment parenting. She explained that Little B must feel safe before he can heal from his past trauma, in order to do that we must remain calm and not react to his negative behavior. She taught me that a child who has suffered neglect, has never had the opportunity to experience many of the baby games that encourage a bond with their parent. Little B and I played peek a boo and patty cake. I gave him bubble baths and massaged him with lotion. Looking back, I wish we would have known about attachment parenting when we first began foster care, it would have saved our whole family so much trauma. We unintentionally made things much worse by parenting Little B as we did our biological child because that was the only form of parenting we knew.

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