Meet The Blogger – Adoption Journey Blog

Today we meet Mr Adoption Journey Blog, who has answered our Meet The Blogger questions…

Quick 5 – In my life at the moment

Book – I tend to alternate my reading between something factual and fascinating and something fictional and fantastical… I have to confess to a unhealthy interest in science (both fiction and fact). I recently finished “The Secret Life of Bletchley Park: The History of the Wartime Code-breaking Centre by the Men and Women Who Were There” and am currently reading “Terra“, a sci-fi novel by Mitch Benn (who also happens to be one of my favourite comedians). Next up will be either “Ian Fleming’s Commandos: The Story of 30 Assault Unit in WWII” or “Home for Good: Making a Difference for Vulnerable Children” by Krish Kandiah.JourneyintoAdopt

Music – Crumbs, there’s so much to choose from. Music is such a big thing for me. Currently on the iPod I’ll nominate Celtic prog/folk group Iona, American bluegrass fiddler Laura Cortese, and Thin Lizzy and The Electric Light Orchestra for some 70s nostalgia.

TV programme – Well, there’s Sherlock, of course. Is it too sad to admit that I am way too excited about Peter Capaldi taking over as Dr Who? In that case it’s definitely far too sad to admit that I am really enjoying Marvel’s Agents Of S.H.I.E.L.D. on Channel 4. And let’s not even mention that new Captain America film that’s coming up… Or Star Wars next year… or…

Food – Any good honest food, hand prepared and preferably consumed with friends.

Pastime – I used to play in a covers band but parenthood has squeezed that out so I guess trying to get out on the bike for a gentle ride, watching movies on DVD and listening to music.

Why did you start blogging about adoption? It all started from a friend’s throwaway comment. She knew that I had done some journalistic writing and said, “Ha! You ought to write a blog about going through the adoption process!” This was while we were still doing home study. I dismissed the thought but it kept niggling back at me. It was actually after we were placed with our little boy that I decided to take the plunge and chart our journey through the approvals process. I guess I hoped that a mixture of factual information about the different stages of the process combined with an honest account of our emotional reaction to it would be useful to people starting out down the road to adoption. I recall trawling the blogosphere in the weeks before our Preparation Days looking for some info on what might happen in them, what the format might be. I remember that I was really disappointed that I couldn’t find anything and so went into them blind. It took a while to convince my wife that it would be possible to do the blog and still retain our anonymity – as that is a biggie for both of us. A year or so on and the blog is fast approaching the point where we were matched so currently I’m pondering how I can continue to be forthright, informative and truthful in the writing while still respecting our little boy’s privacy and the parts of his story which I wouldn’t want to share with the world (even anonymously).

Who is your favourite non-adoption blogger? It would be invidious to single out any one of the excellent adoption blogs I read each week (often via the #WASO) so I will nominate a non-adoption blog. I used to love reading the Word magazine before it went belly up and it’s weekly podcast (where editors Mark Ellen and David Hepworth would blather away for an hour or so on matters pertaining to music, pop culture and anything else that occurred to them) was a real joy. So when it finished it was inevitable that I would pick up on David Hepworth’s blog, David Hepworth’s Notebook. Always worth a look for a similarly insightful but sideways view of popular culture.

Tea/Gin? Never liked gin. Much prefer a nice glass of wine or an artisanal real ale. Mind you, nothing beats a nice cup of tea. Unless it’s a nice cup of coffee!

When I look into the eyes of my child I see… A million things… Potential… to live a life that sadly would not have been available to him in his previous circumstances. A growing trust and love that I will never feel worthy of. An amazing spark of life, cheekiness, intelligence, gentleness, vulnerability, beauty, mischievousness. A little boy who I could not conceivably love one iota more than I love him right this second but who I know I love more and more and more every single  day.

At the weekend I can mostly be found… On a Saturday probably in a coffee shop sharing a latte, a croissant and a babyccino after a lovely cycle ride down the disused railway line/cycle path into town with our little ‘un on the back. Watching him playing in the park or somewhere else he can let off steam. Or realistically,  shopping and just catching up on all that stuff you can’t get done in the week… And then on a Sunday I’ll be at church, as like as not playing in the worship team while our little ‘un claps along with the music and points at daddy playing the bass guitar.

(Bonus Question) What makes you and/or your family laugh? Tim Vine, Mitch Benn, Milton Jones, Radio 4’s Friday Night Comedy Podcast (Check them out. You won’t regret it!). Plus tickles and fun and generally being silly…

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