Our new series ‘Meet The Blogger’ is proving popular amongst bloggers and readers alike. Today we meet Mrs Family of Five…
Quick 5 – In my life at the moment….
Book – It has to be the entire Shopahollic range by Sophie Kinsella, they’re all hilarious I couldn’t choose just one.
Music– I love all sorts from Barbra Streisand to Shaggy!
TV programme – ‘Girls’, its hilarious albeit a bit uncomfortable viewing at times.
Food – Chocolate and pasta, not together obviously!
Pastime – sleeping and blogging both of which I never get enough time for!
What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
It has to be school. Finding teachers that understand attachment and trauma is a huge challenge. The recent introduction of the new Pupil Premium Plus has filled me with hope that it can go some way to funding specialist training for schools to help them to understand in order to meet the needs of adopted children in school. We just need to persuade schools to spend some of it on that now!
Why did you start blogging about adoption?
Because I felt alone with my thoughts and feelings, none of my friends and family seemed to understand and I didn’t know any other adopters. I was convinced I couldn’t be the only one that was having a hard time, and I was right. Blogging opened me up to a whole new world of adopters that shared my feelings and fears. Now i blog to reach out to others that might also be feeling the way I felt and to let them know that they are not alone.
Neither really, I’m more of an orange squash kinda gal, sometimes I do get all adventurous and add some lemonade to some fresh orange juice, outrageous I know!
When I look into the eyes of my child I see?
I see different things for each of my girls. When I look in to baby girls eyes I see confusion. She’s very confused about who she is, what happened to her and even whats going on in her life now. When I look in to middle girls eyes I see fear tinged with anger, she terrified of whats happened to her happening again and she’s understandably angry, but I don’t think she knows who to be angry with. Big girls eyes are filled with insecurity, she understands where she is and why and she knows what happened to her but the fear of it all falling apart like before haunts her.
What I hope I can give my children?
I hope to give them the futures they deserve, lives filled with happiness and love and to replenish that feeling of self worth that was stripped away from them.
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