Quick 5 – In my life at the moment….
Book – How do people have time to read books?
Music – We are pretty eclectic. Anything from Enya to Kanye West. If it evokes an emotions or makes us move our feet we like it.
TV programme – 24 Hours in A&E (with a tissue), Orange is the new black and I’m not going to lie, I do like a bit of Made In Chelsea!
Food – Weekdays we try to “clean eat”. Weekends anything goes!
Pastime– Making and editing videos 😉
What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
Trying to see into the future! With every decision we make, we are trying to second guess how our son will view it, which is basically impossible. We are just trying to do our best for him, to help him feel confident with his start in life and what that means for him.
What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
That you don’t have to feel bad if you don’t feel like “mum” at the start. It can take months for the relationship to grow, years even for some. It’s the same for a lot of biological parents too!
Why did you start blogging about adoption?
We made a blog and YouTube channel to keep a record of our family for my husband, family and friends. As he is in the army we had to move away from family and friends and this year he has to stay on a different base to us most of the week. Its only recently that we mentioned adoption in the videos. It was after a lot of thought and worry. We have had a really positive reaction. Its something we talk about openly (the process, the fact, but not our sons personal story) and confidently as just another way of making a family.
Where do you get your blogging inspiration from?
Firstly from thinking about what I want recorded for my husband and son. Secondly, The every day things that happen in family life. I figured if something matters or has happened to me, chances are it has happened to someone else too. It’s a great way to support each other. Recently I have wanted to write about how we are starting to think about how we welcome another child into the family. Whether to go with fertility treatments or adoption a second time and how many issues that brings up.
Who is your favourite adoption blogger?
Sally Donovan, No Bohns About It.
Who is your favourite non-adoption blogger?
The Honest Mum, A Mummy Too.
What made you choose the blogging platform i.e blogger/wordpress that you did?
I’ve used WordPress before but kept finding glitches so decided to try Blogger. I find it easier to use, and easy to integrate with other google tools and our YouTube channel.
I’m rubbish at drinking. Seriously one glass and I’m under the table so tea and biscuit for me please.
What do you think is your biggest source of support?
Reward charts yes/no?
J isn’t old enough to use these with anyway, so I have to admit I haven’t researched into this kind of thing enough yet to have an educated opinion
What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
To “Fake it until you make it”. However I would say, still have some people in your life you feel you can tell even your deepest darkest thoughts to. Its best to get them our of your system.
Also to trust in your instincts. You are with your child most.
My perfect adoption support would include…
A life story book and later life letter that were actually ready before court concluded and that we had input in! Local play groups etc with other adoptive families. Funding for therapeutic support.
When I look into the eyes of my child I see.. Determination
The best thing we did this week was….Spend time together as a family
If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
When he is older, snorkelling on a coral reef. He is amazed by water and fish!
What I hope I can give to my child/Children?
Confidence in who he is, to be an individual and curiosity at the world.
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