Today we start our first of a new section called Meet the Blogger with Sarah from The Puffin Diaries.
Book – Her Fearful Symmetry – Audrey Niffenegger
Music – The Killers Direct Hits, Pharrell Williams Happy, and favourite new band – Half Moon Run
TV programme – Struggling here, not much I like at the moment but always enjoy a good detective programme that’s not too violent or gruesome, think Poirot or Lewis. Or something with Kirsty Allsopp making things.
Food – New Lebanese cook book for Christmas that I’m looking forward to using.
Pass time – Currently involved with local pantomime, crocheting and blogging.
What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
Oh there are so many aren’t there? The challenges have changed as well over the years, with each age, new school year, different environment and so much more, something new presents. I would say my biggest challenge in most recent times has been to stay positive. In the last year the realisation that a family life I had once dreamed of, is never really likely to happen, has hit me hard. I had a very laid back up bringing, my parents socialised a lot and we went a long, or there were often people at our home. I would have like a similar life, I knew it would never be easy but I’m not sure I understood how much I had hoped for would be lost. I suppose in that sense I’ve almost been mourning a loss, and during that time visualising the future has seemed quite bleak. However, I am coming to appreciate that although the future may not be as I imagined, it will just be different and that does not mean that it will necessarily be bad. It’s also made me address the need to ensure that there are aspects of my life that do satisfy my own needs. That way I can be stronger and accepting of some of the tougher times that family life brings.
Inspiration comes from my family of course, although I do also include posts about my own interests on my blog, cooking and photography mostly. I find I am more inspired when I’m emotionally and mentally in a good place. If I write when I’m feeling depressed it seems like I’m whinging and moaning a lot. That is why I haven’t write as much in the recent past. Being depressed does however produce some rather dark poetry, however I’m not sure I would ever want anyone else to be privy to it. I’m also inspired by other bloggers and the things they write about. For example I recently wrote about my one word New Year’s resolution after reading another bloggers post.
Who is your favourite non-adoption blogger?
I do really enjoy reading blogs, not just adoption ones, but there really isn’t enough hours in the day to read as many, as often as I would like. However, if I do get a chance I love to catch up with Older Mum in a Muddle. I just love the way she writes and her outlook on life is always inspiring, she makes me want to do a better job of things, blogging and life.
If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
Forgetting all the horrors that travelling with children with early life trauma can bring, I would take my children to South Africa. It’s the country I was born in and I have a huge amount of love for the place. I’d so like to take them on safari and see all the wild animals, it’s such an incredible experience. Maybe after South Africa we’d have a week in Mauritius, another beautiful place I’ve been privileged enough to visit, so Stig and I can learn to scuba dive. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do and I have told him that I’ll now wait until we can learn together. The reality is that the long flight and dramatically different environment would probably be too much for both the boys to cope with at the moment, but maybe one day.
What makes you and/or your family laugh?
My children can both make me laugh with their funny antics, although Tink particularly has a sharp and witty, almost caustic sense of humour. My husband also has a great sense of humour and some of my fondest memories of us together are of times when we’ve laughed endlessly. That hasn’t happened so much in recent times, but when it does it completely reminds me of why I love him so much. As a family we do laugh and joke quite a lot and certain films are family favourites. With Christmas just passed those that spring to mind are Elf and Nativity.
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