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Brighter Thinking – a new animation

Recently on Twitter, The Open Nest invited adoptive parents to share ways they felt unsupported by friends and family, and also share the ways that their support networks got it right too.
To view all of the suggestions, you can search on Twitter using #Allchildrendothat.

The aim of this research was to inform a new animation, to be produced by the charity, following the success of it’s previous animation The Lost Children of Trauma. And last week, our very own Sarah (also of The Puffin Diaries and Trustee of The Open Nest) and Amanda Boorman of The Open Nest, launched the new animation – Brighter Thinking.

And here it is:

Now we need your help again in getting it seen. So please share it far and wide – with your local authority, with your friends and families, with anyone you think would benefit from seeing it. It not only shows how adopters feel they could have been supported better, but it acknowledges the good bits too and highlights how prospective adopters might be better supported in the future.

And finally, we’d like to say a big thank you to all of those who contributed to this film in anyway. Your input and experiences are vital in getting better support for adopters and adoptees.

Meet Me – a Chance to Join in.

Since day one of The Adoption Social we’ve run a feature where bloggers are able to contribute to our website with posts like Meet the Blogger and Me and my Blog. However it seems a little unfair to limit this opportunity just to those who blog. So many of you tweet and comment on our Facebook page and have a huge input to our online community. So maybe you too would like a chance to tells us a little about yourself.

If you are interested, all you do is answer a few questions about yourself. You chose which five you want to answer from the list, but we ask everyone to complete the quick 5, it’s all a bit of fun. There are two sets of questions one for adoptive parents and the second set for adoptees.

Meet Me questions:

For everyonePlease answer these 5 questions,

Quick 5 – In my life at the moment….

  • Book –
  • Music-
  • TV programme
  • Food
  • Pastime

Then choose 5 questions minimum to answer form the following list..

Adoptive parents:

  1. What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
  2. What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
  3.  What inspires you?
  4. Who inspires you?
  5. Tea/Gin?
  6. What do you think is your biggest source of support?
  7. What do you do to take care of yourself?
  8. What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
  9. My perfect adoption support would include…
  10. When I look into the eyes of my child I see..
  11. The best thing we did this week was….
  12. If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
  13. What I hope I can give to my child/Children?
  14.  At the weekend I can mostly be found…
  15.  What makes you and/or your family laugh?


  1. Can you choose 3 words that describe your experiences?
  2. My perfect support network would include….
  3. What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
  4. When I look in the mirror I see…
  5. The best thing I did this week was…
  6. If you could travel anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
  7. At the weekend I can mostly be found….
  8. What makes you laugh?
  9. Tea/Gin?
  10. What do you think is your biggest source of support?
  11. What inspires you?
  12. Who inspires you?
  13. What do you do to take care of yourself?
  14. If you have children of your own, what are your greatest hopes for them?
  15. What are your greatest hopes for yourself?

So select your questions and get answering. Once you are done your email your answers to theadoptionsocial@gmail.com

Who is The Adoption Social for?


There has been a bit of confusion over on Twitter this week amongst our followers,We need you about who The Adoption Social is for. Some people have assumed that because they aren’t adoptive parents, that this site is not suitable or appropriate for them, and therefore they feel they can’t contribute.

We’d like to say a big Sorry if you’ve felt this way and if we’ve given you the impression that this site is exclusively for adoptive parents. It’s not!

The truth is, we are adoptive parents. We came together through a mutual love of blogging, and a desire to help link up those who blog about adoption. Thus The Weekly Adoption Shout Out was born. We’ve come such a long way since then, and The Adoption Social stands alone as a support site for those who don’t necessarily know the back story of how it came to be.

Our aim has always been that The Adoption Social is created and led by those in adoption and those experiencing and living with adoption in their lives. We therefore need you to write for us, contribute your experiences and knowledge so that we can pass that on to others and they in turn can support, understand and help you and many more.

Because of our own experiences and connections, most of the content on this site supports adoptive parents rather than anyone else within this world of adoption. That’s not because we don’t want posts from other people, or differing perspectives, we do, but they are harder to find. We do hope however, that what is published gives all sorts of people an insight into adoptive parenting and the needs of our (currently) young adoptees, and allows you to support others and gain support, even if it’s just knowing there’s someone else out there in a similar situation.

So whatever your position – adoptee, care-leaver, foster carer, adoptive parent, prospective adoptive parent, contact supervisor, birth parent, wider family from either birth family or adoptive, social worker, therapist, health visitor, special guardian, kinship carer, doctor, specialist, student or other interested party, we would be happy to have you featured on The Adoption Social, and invite you to guest post, write us a problem, share poetry, write a review or have a rant.
We also invite you to link your blog up to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out – so called because the links are about adoption related subjects, not just for adoptive parents.

If you really want to write for us but aren’t sure if your subject is right, then send us a copy at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com and we’ll have a look and remember that we are always happy for you to use a pseudonym or anonymise your post for you.