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5 Top Tips for Starting a Blog.

 Today we bring you 5 tips that can help you start your very own blog…….

Research- read other blogs and not just adoption blogs. Find blogs you like the look of, not to copy but to be inspired by. Think about what you want your blog to include, will it have images or even vlogs? Maybe you want it to have both, or neither, the writing may be the most important part for you.

ReviewLooking at blogs can help you decide which platform you wish to start your blog on, for example WordPress, Blogger or SquareSpace. When you look at a blog the platform the blog is built on may be obvious from either the name of the blog (eg- adoptionblog.wordpress.com) or by scrolling to the base of the home page where the platform and theme is often named.   If it is not obvious which format it is, then ask. Most bloggers will be flattered that you like the look of their blog and be happy to help.  Here we have a post on starting a blog in WordPress and in Blogger.

 Be original –whilst it’s good to be inspired by others; don’t try to copy anyone’s style. Write about what interests you and in the style you feel most comfortable with. I’m at my most happy blogging from an emotional angle, you might like to use humour or it may be that you want to be political and raise serious issues that you are passionate about.

Look Unique –Most blog themes can be customised, make your blog look original. Change the colour scheme and even design your own logo or header. Here’s a post about how to create your own header .

Share – Now you’ve gone to all this trouble make sure you share your posts, link up to #WASO share on twitter.  If you are on twitter use the same name as your blog as your twitter name or at least have your blog details on your profile. Here are some posts you might find useful.

How to link to #WASO

Starting a Twitter Account

Enjoy yourself – Don’t let your blog feel like a chore, make sure you are benefiting through writing, be it to gain support from other or in support of others. For some it is cathartic and others get delight in sharing their special and important moments of adoption. What is your motivation?

Meet Me: Gareth Marr

Our first Meet Me post today comes from blogger, tweeter and campaigner Gareth Marr…

  • ‘Sapiens – A Brief History of Mankind’ Yuval Noah Harari. Did you know we lived on the earth with other Home species and probably mated with them!
  • ‘A Brief History of Seven Killings’ Marlon James. The Jamaica the tourists don’t know.
  • ‘Artie Shaw, King of the Clarinet. His Life and Times’ Tom Nolan. He married 8 times including Lana Turner and Ava Gardner, dated Betty Grable and had Billie Holiday as his singer in an all white band.

It’s all modern New Orleans jazz

  • ‘Breathless’ Terence Blanchard
  • ‘Say That to This’ Trombone Shorty
  • ‘Stretch Music’ Christian Scott

TV Programme – Dr Foster

Food – soft and easy to digest and made by Mrs M

Pastime – Anything with son. This week conkers.

What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
That after us, school is the most important thing to get right. ( I think we passed, so far)

Who inspires you?
So many, but this week Louise Bomber who did a brilliant on day conference for local adopters last Friday.

What do you think is your biggest source of support?
My wife and son.

What do you do to take care of yourself?
Breathe, carefully and with concentration. Yoga.

What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
‘If you are lucky enough to be in the club, you gotta pay your dues.’

The lovely Gareth can be found tweeting as @garethmarr and blogging here..

Summer Sandpit 1/9/14

It’s our final week of Summer Sandpit…

dens in the woodsOur very last Summer Sandpit is all about dens. I think most children enjoying den-building don’t they? Whether it’s in the woods with sticks and branches, in the garden under the trampoline or in the dining room with blankets over the table.

dens inside
What about your children? Is this something they’ve done this Summer? If so, we’d love you to link up your posts or share your images with the #SummerSandpit.

Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 82

Well can you believe it? It’s time for the Weekly Adoption Shout Out again…
This is our final #WASO of August 2014, and we’re really looking forward to reading your posts. Maybe you’ve written about your summer? Perhaps the return to school? Maybe you’ve written a reaction to the recent news about Rotherham? Whatever the subject, come and ink up, and you could even add posts you’ve read that you’ve particularly enjoyed. As always we’ll share as many as we can.

So, add your link below, and do check back to read and support any that link up after you. It’d be great if you could include the hashtag #WASO in any comments you leave, tweets or Facebook posts.

Summer Sandpit 28/7/14

Hello and welcome to the first week of our new Summer Sandpit linky – a place for you to share your summer memories and activities, and perhaps give some inspiration to others.sandpit_zpse4b97af5

Our weeks are themed, but as with all our linkys – the themes are optional. This first week is ‘Nature’ and to kick us off, Vicki from The Boy’s Behaviour is sharing some activities that you might like to do with your children…

barny the woodsTruth be told, I’m not an outdoorsy person. I don’t like hot weather, despise wasps and buzzy insects, and see no point in sunbathing. However, I do like nature – I love the smells and colour of the flowers, homegrown fruits and vegetables taste far sweeter than bought ones, and even as an adult, I’m fascinated by seed pods, crunchy autumnal leaves, knobbly twigs and live in hope I may one day see fairies at the bottom of the garden.

With this in mind, I like activities that encourage the children to think about nature, and allow them to bring the outside in – not worms and stuff, but those seed pods, seeds, dried flowers, petals, feathers and such.

Here are a few of the posts I’ve published in the past that explore and encourage thoughts Dirt cupsabout nature:
Dirt Cup Puddings (with jelly snakes, worms or bugs)
Rice Maze and Story Maker (easily adaptable to only include natural objects)
Grape Caterpillars
Nature Paper

And I have a pinterest board full of other nature-type crafts and activities

how to get kids offline

I also recently reviewed a fantastic book called ‘How to Get Kids Offline, Outdoors and Connecting With Nature’ – click through and you’ll see a photo of the Fairy House that Dollop and I made together. And I’ve made a list of other activities from the book that I’d like to try this Summer.


We’ll definitely be heading out to explore nature – fruit picking, scavenger hunts, gardening, geocaching, and even painting our own rock bugs, link your post up below so we can see how you’ve been getting nature into your lives…

As usual, no rules, just add your link below. All welcome to link in – no connection to adoption needed, but great summer activity posts only please. Do share your favourites, and comment on posts where you can.

How to start a blogger blog

Last week we showed you how to create a blog in WordPress. The other popular alternative blogging tool is Blogger/Blogspot. So here’s how to start a Blogger blog…

Step 1

Go to the website www.blogger.com. Click on Create Account. Blogger is tied into google/gmail/google+ and much more, even if you already have a gmail email account, I’d suggest that you don’t use that with your blog, and create a blog specific one.

starting on blogger

Step 2

The next page will require you to create an account. Consider your own security here, you might not want to use your real or whole name.

You will be required to verify your account by phone/text message. But your number won’t be public.

You’ve made a google account – you now have a new email address and can connect it to your blog.

Step 3

Now you need to confirm your profile – I suggest selecting a limited Blogger profile rather than a Google+ profile. Safer for adoptive bloggers who might need to consider safety and security more than other bloggers.

Select your profile name – this is how you would like your name to appear. You could use the blog name you hope to use? Continue on…

Step 4

The next page will take you to your ‘dashboard’. Here you’ll see any blogs you’ve created, and a few basic statistics about them.

Now you can create your blog. Click on the NEW BLOG button on the left.create your blog 2

Step 5

Here you’ll choose your blog name and web address. Your web address will be unique – but your blog name and web address don’t have to be the same.

As you type, you’ll see whether you’ve picked a unique name or not.

You can choose a template on this screen too, but don’t worry – you can easily change this later.

That’s it, your blog is create. Blogger is very helpful at getting you started – just click on the prompts that appear. If you want to return to your dashboard at any point, then click on the B icon in the top left corner.

setting up blogger 3

Next time I’ll talk you through design a little bit – and how to change the look and style of your blog.  In the meantime, if you have any questions, do drop us a line at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com

Weekly Adoption Shout Out #WASO Week 66

Hello, hello, hello! It’s Weekly Adoption Shout Out time and that means we’re looking forward to reading another host of adoption blogs and sharing them with our favourite people – you!

Week 66
Last week we had the theme ‘When I Grow Up’ and a fair few of you joined in. If you haven’t read the posts yet, then the list is still here.
This week there’s no theme, so link up your best and favourite posts from this week. If you know of an adoption blogger who doesn’t join in with #WASO, perhaps you might like to give them a nudge and suggest they join in. It’s great having a large supportive community – oh, and it’s a ready-made readership too!

Anyway, enough of me babbling away, here’s the linky…add your blog post, get commenting, then get sharing!


Meet The Blogger – Three Pink Diamonds

Today it’s the turn of Three Pink Diamonds, read on to learn more about the mum behind the blog…

Boots Picture

Quick 5 – In my life at the moment

Book – Creating Loving Attachments by Dan Hughes & Kim Golding and just about to start reading The New Contented Little Baby Book by Gina Ford.

Music – Pharrell Williams – Happy.

TV programme – New Housewives of New Jersey.

Food – Marvellous Creations Chocolate

Pastime – Baking

What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
I wish we were given a deeper insight into how difficult parenting can be and the personal challenges you face whilst caring for children that have already experienced so much. I think if we had been provided with more information then it would have helped me not to feel so desperate and alone in the really dark moments.

Where do you get your blogging inspiration from?
To begin with I wanted to share our story of how we became a family of five overnight. When I found the Adoption Social website and began to share my blogs on a weekly basis I was inspired by the other writers to continue to post about the daily highs and lows of parenting our girls.


What is the best or most memorable piece of advice you have ever received?
To take care of yourself, to be kind to yourself and not to expect too much from anyone, including yourself.

My perfect adoption support would include
Supernanny, cook, cleaner, chauffer, live in babysitter and an expert on raising adoptive children on hand.

The best thing we did this week was….
Packing a picnic and heading out to a favourite family spot. The sun was shining, kids were playing and my husband and I were able to relax and enjoy the moment.

If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
I’m not sure I could pick one place, as there are so many wonderful things to see and do. We went to the airport at the weekend to pick up a close relative. Whilst we were there we saw some planes coming into land and taking off. It was great to see the girls’ faces light up with excitement. I think when they are a little older it would be fantastic to travel abroad with them and to give them that experience.

From the archives – 5

Hey, you there…got an old post that didn’t get the love it deserved? Then bring it here and link right up!

From the archives is our simplest ever linky. Find an old post, copy and paste it into the form down there…yes, at the bottom of this post. That’s it. To quote a ‘friend’, could it BE any easier?!

Oh, and if you fancy it, you could add our pretty badge to show all your readers that you join in (it’ll magically link back to us here at The Adoption Social, and therefore help promote your fellow bloggers too!). So what are you waiting for?

From The Archives

We like to join in this one too, so check out one of our older posts – Father and Son

Meet The Blogger – 3 Bees and A Honey

Today we meet the lovely blogger at 3 Bees and a Honey

Quick 5 – In my life at the moment……….

brotherly loveBook – I am a huge Daphne Du Maurier fan and at the moment I am re-visiting ‘The Loving Spirit’ although with the TV adaptation of ‘Jamaica Inn’ coming very soon, I really should be reading this book again to refresh my memory before I get precious about how they present it (I may have been a little upset by the 1997 TV adaptation of ‘Rebecca’)

Music – When I am feeling wound up – Andre Rieu or Meatloaf, and on my goofy days – anything with a fun beat to dance to

TV programme– Neighbours, Home and Away, & Dance Moms (there’s nothing like watching crazy American mums to make you feel like you are normal).

Food– I am an incredibly fussy eater and the repertoire of food I will eat is pretty small but I can never resist a nice tasty toasted steak sandwich

Pastime– Blogging, Ballroom dancing, Walking Beedog

What is your biggest challenge as an adoptive parent?
Crikey, I think it would be easier to say what ‘isn’t’ a big challenge for me. “No matter what the boys throw at me, I am and will always be there for them.  I will never give up on them, no matter”.  As for biggest challenge, there are so many I wouldn’t know where to start – Schools (managing lack of understanding, misinterpretations, splitting etc), prejudices/ignorance within our local community, keeping myself regulated while hearing for the one hundredth time “all kids do that”, Oh heck keeping myself regulated full stop. I guess at the moment my biggest challenge is keeping everyone happy while trying to manage my own feelings of helplessness, loss, grief, mistrust, guilt, inadequacy and knowing that I do not have the courage to seek the support that I need for fear of being blamed again.

What do you wish you had known before you adopted your children?
The incredible and dramatic impact their trauma bond has on my boys.  They adore each other but it is such profound effect on them both (especially Buzzbee) that the simplest flick of an eyebrow can send one or the other into a downward spiral.

At the weekend I can mostly be found…
‘Fighting fires’ in other words. I can be found managing the fallout from the latest argument, upset or fight that has broken out between the boys (trauma bonds suck). When I am not refereeing disagreements, I can be found fighting a losing battle with de-cluttering the house (Bumble has his mother’s hording gene and the boys don’t believe in rubbish bins or throwing away damaged toys/clothes/packaging/sweet wrappers etc.)

Who is your favourite adoption blogger?
Oh that is not fair!! I couldn’t possibly choose. There are so many fantastic bloggers over on The Adoption Social site and each and every one of them has their own unique style, which I love.

What do you think is your biggest source of support?
Oh gosh, a couple of months ago I would have said it would have to have been knowing that if I was having a particularly difficult time with the boys or an issue related to their early years trauma, I could contact Jemima (Beeswax’s previous therapist) or Wise Owl (previous PASW) to discuss it with them or simply offload and know that they would listen to my ranting without judging me. Never underestimate the power of having someone validating your own feelings, especially when you are filled with shame for not feeling ‘warm and fuzzy’ towards your traumatised children – it has been my saving grace more times than I can count. Sadly neither of them are now employed by our LA.

Having said this, our LA do organise a monthly attachment support group for adoptive parents (I believe they do the same for their foster and kinship carers also).  This is now probably one of my biggest sources of support (although generally I am more inclined to end up offering support to other mums attending rather than asking for support myself).

If you could take your children anywhere in the world to see something where would you go?
Ok if I pretend for the moment that the thought alone of travelling on an aeroplane with my boys wouldn’t send me spiralling in to an epic panicked state – where would I take them?

Wow, there are so many places. I suppose each of us have dreams of visiting different places.  Beeswax would love for us to take him to Rio for the football World Cup.  Buzzbee would love to go to Florida or more precisely, he would love to go to Disneyland and SeaWorld.  Bumble would love to take the boys to the ‘Valley of the kings’ in Egypt.  As for me I would love to take them to Petra in Jordan.

What makes you and/or your family laugh?
If you were to ask the boys and Bumble this question they would say “anything mummy does that she didn’t mean to do or say”.  It is common knowledge to our family and friends that I am a complete ditz and routinely have ‘blonde moments’ (it was a standard joke with our SW Shamrock during our home study sessions).

I can be counted on to unintentionally make others fall about laughing.

As for what makes me laugh – it has to be Buzzbee and Beeswax’s amusing excuses for doing something or getting themselves out of trouble.