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Memory Box – 23/6/14

MBbadgeWhat memories have you been making this week? Good bits, memorable bits, celebratory bits – we want to know about them…

Memory Box is a linky where you can add all your posts about the good bits in your life. From small successes to big achievements, sharing those moments can bring smiles and encouragement to others, and it gives you a chance to shout about the bits that have gone well.

So come along, add your link below, and let us smile and celebrate with you…

Oh, and if you don’t have a blog – you can still join in. Share your photos on Twitter or our Facebook page with the hashtag #memorybox and we’ll do our best to share them for you.


Father’s Day

Zoe* is an adoption social worker, working for a local authority adoption agency. She is also an adoptive parent to her son Cain*, who was placed 8 years ago, and is now 10.

mothers dayIn my conversations with adoptive parents, Mother’s Day is often talked about, and in several different contexts too. It’s a time for us as parents to reflect and remember our children’s birth mums, and empathise how difficult the day is for those birth mums, it can be a difficult day for our children with conflict and divided loyalties appearing to be common themes (though not something I’ve experienced), and I know many adoptive families don’t celebrate or mark the occasion at all because it’s just too difficult.

On other celebration days mums seem to get it bad too – and in my own house my birthday is particularly difficult as my son struggles with the attention being diverted away from him and feels he should get presents too. However, other days such as my husbands birthday and grandparent’s birthdays go well, with no concerns on our part about how our son will handle them.

dad picSo with Father’s Day approaching, it’s reminded me about this disparity. Again, in our house, it goes OK. There are no concerns and we will ‘celebrate’ (I use that term loosely) with no worry that the day will be disrupted any more than usual.

I know that other adoptive families have this same imbalance. Mum cops all the flack, Dad gets an easier ride.

There are many reasons why children reject their adoptive mothers more than their fathers – perhaps it’s a way of protecting their previous relationships with their birth mother or foster carer, maybe it’s because women previously in their lives have hurt them, perhaps they’re too scared to get close, maybe they’re just going through a normal developmental period, maybe they’re enjoying the relationship of a father – something they might not have had before, some children display this ambivalent behaviour towards one parent to mask the fear that they are actually bonding well – there are many more reasons and speculations besides.

So I want to know more about how Father’s Day is seen and experienced by adoptive parents and their children. Do you celebrate? Does it cause problems? More or less than Mother’s Day? What about for single adopters? Do these days have different challenges for you? Is there any way we can prepare potential adopters to handle these challenging days better?

If you can answer Zoe’s questions, then please comment below and we’ll pass your responses on to her, though I’m sure she’ll be reading anyway.

*Names have been changed to protect the identity of those involved.

Memorybox – 26/05/2014

The Linky where you share the really good bits, big or small…….., 

Isn’t it nice to think about the positive stuff? As parents sometimes we get bogged down with the daily stuff, and the difficult stuff. It’s really great to see so many people sharing their positive moments.

If you need inspiration, see this lovely post, Touch Wood, from Stickleberry, last week ….

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This is a week long linky open from Monday morning to Sunday evening, and you can link more than once. Simply click below to add your details. Don’t forget you could also tweet your photo memories and we’ll pin and re-share them too. Use the hashtag #MemoryBox when sharing on Facebook and Twitter.

If you’re taking part, consider adding our badge:

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is linky list is now closed.

 



Memory Box – 19/5/2014

WE HAVE BROUGHT BACK THE LINKY THAT CELEBRATES THE REALLY GOOD BITS

The aim of this linky is to share and celebrate great moments, memories and achievements – both our own as parents or adopted people, and that of our children or parents. We all sometimes have days, weeks when things can be really tough, looking for those small positives can really help us find our way. We are not aiming to sugar coat things just celebrate the good that is sometimes over shadowed by the darker bits.  MBbadge

So if something has gone well, been great or made you smile then share it here. You might want to link a full blog post, a photo, a poem, or a soundbite, anything you like. So find those encouraging moments and share them here, or have a read and find something to make you smile.

Memory Box runs all week long, opening on Monday mornings, closing on Sunday evenings. So do come and link whenever you have something to celebrate. 

And don’t forget to grab our badge…

Memory Box

 

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#Memorybox 5/08/2013

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Some lovely images here from Suddenly Mummy‘s Memory Box post of last week. You can see all of last week’s link ups here.

It’s always encouraging to see progress, happy times and celebrations, and we’re grateful to those of you that link them up with Memory Box each week. We’d love to see more of those great times!

The linky is below, please feel free to add more than one link if you’ve posted more than once. And please do share your moments on Twitter, and on our Facebook page too.



Memory Box 15/7/13

Welcome to another week of Memory Box, where we hope you’ll link-up your celebratory blog posts.

We had some more fantastic memories and moments shared last week…here’s a wonderful photo from Two Mums, Two Kids? who are celebrating their daughter’s newly developed confidence with water…

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Do you have a lovely memory to share? Or a special moment to celebrate? Has your child done something great this week? Or do you have a memory of your parents doing something fantastic? Perhaps you have handled a situation particularly well this week and want to shout about it?

If so, please add the link to your blog post below, or you can tweet us your photo, or write on our Facebook page. Just remember to include the hashtag #MemoryBox!



Memory Box 1/7/13

A great piece of writing by Bonzo! Read about it on Adopt and Keep Calm.

A great piece of handwriting celebrated over on Adopt and Keep Calm.

Isn’t it nice to think about the positive stuff? As parents sometimes we get bogged down with the daily stuff, and the difficult stuff. It’s really great to see so many people sharing their positive moments.

This is a week long linky open from Monday morning to Sunday evening, and you can link more than once. Simply click below to add your details. Don’t forget you could also tweet your photo memories and we’ll pin and re-share them too. Use the hashtag #MemoryBox when sharing on Facebook and Twitter.

If you’re taking part, consider adding our badge:

Memory Box
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This linky list is now closed.

Memory Box 24/6/13

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From last weeks Memory Box submitted by All Aboard The Trauma Train
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Welcome to another week of Memory Box. We were pleased to see some lovely memories, moments and celebrations in the link up last week, so keep them coming.
Remember the linky is open all week long, so keep checking back at the new posts that join in.

Another fun way to join in Memory Box is to tweet pictures of your achievements with the #MemoryBox. We will then share them and pin them to a Pinterest board. So if your achievements can be caught on camera, snap away and then share it, couldn’t be easier.

We’d love if you could comment on some of the blogs that join in, and let them know you found them on #MemoryBox. Share your favourites on Twitter too…

If you’re taking part, then let your followers and readers know by adding our badge too:

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Memory Box 17/6/13

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The aim of this linky is to share and celebrate great moments, memories and achievements – both our own as parents or adopted people, and that of our children or parents. We all sometimes have days, weeks when things can be really tough, looking for those small positives can really help us find our way. We are not aiming to sugar coat things just celebrate the good that is sometimes over shadowed by the darker bits.  So if something has gone well, been great or made you smile then share it here. You might want to link a full blog post, a photo, a poem, or a soundbite, anything you like. So find those encouraging moments and share them here, or have a read and find something to make you smile.

Memory Box runs all week long, opening on Monday mornings, closing on Sunday evenings. So do come and link whenever you have something to celebrate. 

The only rule is that you look at the other posts linked up and comment if you can. #MemoryBox


And don’t forget to grab our badge…

Memory Box
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