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Summer activities with little planning

I’ve been thinking a lot about the forthcoming Summer holidays. Usually I go with the flow but this year I wanted to arm myself with a handful of activities that I could pull together quickly when the first ‘I’m bored’ calls begin, so I thought you’d like to see it too…

In the garden:

Garden games – It takes very little to get some garden games ready. You can even get the kids involved with the planning and making.

Make some cardboard spots and mark them with different point values – who can score the most with 3 beanbags? Often the children think about different ways they can play the game and they get inventive. BUT you might need to be clear on rules at the very beginning to make this work.

Trampolining a great activity to help with calming down angry children, regulating hyper children, it’s a sensory experience too.

Water fights – get the water pistols out, buy cheap sponges and cut them up, even use old ketchup bottles as squirters. Good for cooling down on hot days. And it provides a nurturing opportunity when getting snug and dry after.

Invite their friends over – yes you might have to supply squash and sandwiches, but it’s a real eye opener watching your children interact with others. And if they’re in your garden, you get to keep an eye. Provide a few footballs, swingball, skipping ropes or pots of bubbles and even the most cool and streetwise 14 year old, will be running around popping those bubbles with the glee of a toddler!

In the house:

Cooking/baking –  yes this can strike fear into the heart of any parent, but it really is great fun for kids and as long as you don’t mind a bit of mess it can be a lovely bonding experience if you choose the right moment.
Whatever your skill level (and your childs) you can have fun with this…rice crispie cakes to homemade pitta bread pizzas, my son (after some sensory therapy) now loves squishing together homemade veggie burgers, and my youngest likes just spreading butter and jam on a piece of bread.

Movie time – grab a few DVDs, whether they’re old favourites or new surprises, make up a bowl of popcorn and bottles of drinks and chill together. This is a lovely way to snuggle, relax and re-charge.

Crafting – again, not everyone’s cup of tea, but even if you leave a pile of paper, some glue sticks and foam shapes on the kitchen table, the kids will enjoy it. You can supervise with a cup of tea whilst they stick each other together, I mean create wonderful pictures, and even if only for 20 minutes, it’s a fairly simple activity that can be enjoyed by various ages. (My children make loads of pictures, so armed with envelopes and stamps we send them as presents to members of the family and then they don’t clutter up my house too much).

Play – lots of our kids struggle to play. They might need some structure in which case you can put out some useful props and sit nearby for help and support…maybe leaving some paper plates out next to a pile of teddies (picnic anyone?), or a half built lego model that can be continued, even a pile of blankets and pegs so they can make their own den. Sometimes that initial prompt can be enough to get them going. For inspiration search ‘invitation to play’ on Pinterest.

Out of the house

Fruit picking – a simple way to get them out of the house but with an end purpose and a healthy snack (who doesn’t nibble a few strawberries whilst picking them?). You could (if you have the time and inclination) make a whole themed day of it…beginning with fruit themed crafts, ending with jam making, or cake decorating with fresh fruit?

Go to the park – Whether your kids are younger or older, the park is light relief. Swings, slides and climbing frames or even a field with a ball. Take a couple of drinks and some snackage, and get out for an hour or two. Arrange to meet friends there if you like, or take a picnic.

Nature trails and walking games – we make nature bingo sheets, just a very simple list or pictures of things they might see on a walk…ants, blue cars, post boxes, the bakery etc and they tick them off as we go. Sometimes we take a camera and they have to take a picture of each thing too. Other times, the bingo card lists leaves and objects they can bring home, so we take a bag or hat with us to fill. This works well with younger children, but you can adapt it to suit whatever age group. This has helped my hyper child focus on something…a big achievement.

Puddle jumping – even on the wettest days, and in fact especially on the wettest days you just need to get out. So pull on your wellies, grab a jacket and go out to jump in puddles. Have fun with your kids!
Before you go, put newspaper down by the door and a pile of towels and pyjamas on the side, so you can get dry and snuggly when you get home.

What do you think? Will you do some of these with your children? What else are you planning? Let us know.

Today’s guest post is from Hayley, a mum of 4 children, 2 of whom are adoptive. They are 15, 12, 7 and 6. Hayley’s children have lots of different diagnoses (ASD, SPD, Attachment problems, FASD and anxiety) between them which are displayed differently in each so she’s well used to juggling activities to suit all or most of their needs at the same time. We’re grateful to Hayley for sharing this post with us. 

Life on the Frontline – Week 14

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A weekly blog from a family made by adoption, warmed by the laughter, broken by the sadness, held together by love with a big dollop of hope, oh, and often soaked in mummy tears.

This Christmas I’ve been in paradise, well the closest I could get to it with my two boys in tow. Sounds unfair but let me explain, we’ve been on holiday, a very special holiday. A trip to a beautiful Caribbean island, to stay in a very smart and lovely hotel, alongside a large family group. Yes I know, some of you will have a sickness rising from your stomachs at the thought. Not a stomach churning feeling of excitement, but one instead of dread.

The planning started early in 2014, a large family holiday in a beautiful location, a treat for us all from my in-laws. Wow, how do I resist? I couldn’t. Since the moment I said yes I have filled my thoughts with what will it be like? How terrible could it possibly be? Maybe they will have changed by then? How will my boys deal with this experience?

The night before we flew I felt like we were stepping out into the abyss, a great unknown which at its worst could, turn a holiday in paradise into hell.

I’m really not going to go into many specifics about the holiday. I’m sure you don’t want to hear about crystal clear, warm sea, powdery golden beaches, swimming with turtles and a sighting of Simon Cowell. I know you really aren’t interested in all that. No I want to tell you instead about how proud I am of my boys.

It wasn’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination but, just in case you are ever considering a similar type of holiday, I’ll detail some of the blips, for your information only.

There was the one when, in the middle of a busy restaurant, Small very loud declared “make me“at a request to return to the table, and then stuck the V’s up at me as all heads turned.

There was also the moment I had Small returned to us from kid’s club, for pushing other children. I felt proud because that was the forth time he’d been and the three previous times there had been no incidents.

The numerous times I had to ask them both to leave the swimming pool because they were quite obviously ganging up on a group of children, using very unsavoury methods to acquire the pool floats they desired, to the background sound of tuting parents. I may also have had a few more “make me’s” to face in these moments.

Or Tall constantly behaving like the world is so awful and horrid to him, resident victim, even when he’s in paradise. My logical mind understands him completely, but god it pushes my buttons.

The terrible feeling that those family members with us still don’t get “it”. The clues were in the rolling eyes, the turning of backs and the lack of supportive words.

However, there was nothing I hadn’t half expected, nothing we couldn’t deal with. The lack of understanding from those around me, immediately and on the periphery strengthens my resolve.  I will not allow those around me to undermine what I know to be true about my children.

So I am starting 2015 with a Caribbean fire in my belly. We have much to face in school for Small in the coming weeks, but I am ready to be strong and fight for what is best for my family.

In other News

With a reduced number of presents being sent this year, in our family, I might have put a present under the tree to myself with a gift tag stating “you are amazing”.

We now know Father Christmas definitely travels as far as the Caribbean, what a task that was to organise.

Word of advice, lots of rum punch on Boxing Day is not advisable.