Hello! I’m Sarah a single adopter to a gorgeous 8 year old. When I started my adoption journey 3 ½ years ago I didn’t really think about how much support I would need. I made the decision to adopt and assumed I would get the support I needed when I needed it. As we all know though, the reality is often very different.
Throughout the approval process all the training I received was aimed at couples, which is understandable. I don’t have anyone to takeover when he’s having a meltdown and I feel like I want to join in. Since my son moved in 16 months ago it has been a rollercoaster ride, with some amazing highs, and a lot of difficult lows. Throughout that time I’ve been lucky that my social worker has been good, but my son is from a different LA and they are not quite so good. To start with there were no support groups near me and I couldn’t have gone to an evening meeting anyway.
All of this got me thinking about the type of support I wanted and needed. I spoke to a number of other single adopters to see how they felt and a clear message came out – they wanted a support group specifically for single adopters to focus on their issues. In some cases they didn’t know any other single adopters, had very little support from their LA’s and felt isolated. That’s not right and needs to change. Whilst there are many similarities between the experiences of couples and singles adopting there are of course differences, and recognising and supporting those differences doesn’t always happen.
From these discussions the idea for the Single Adopters Network was born. I decided to create a support network just for single adopters and I wanted it to be one everyone could access. My intention is for the group to be a supportive, friendly and non-judgemental community purely for single adopters, or those thinking about adopting by themselves. It is an online network, so it doesn’t matter where in the country you are, you can join and get the support you need when you need it. There is a secure forum where you can ask for advice and support each other, as well as a resources area with useful information that is only accessible to members. There will also be a monthly call, via a teleconference system for anonymity, which will give you the opportunity to talk to other single adopters from across the country from the comfort of your sofa, so no worries about babysitters! All of this is designed to support us in building a strong, supportive community where we can help each other through the difficult times, but also celebrate the good times together.
I’m so pleased that the network launched on Saturday and if you’d like more details about the group and how to join the website is www.singleadoptersnetwork.com
I can be contacted via email firstname.lastname@example.org or mobile 07817 544707 if you’d like further information or to have a chat. I’m also on twitter @fishercoaching
I’m passionate about building a supportive, friendly and non-judgemental community to help single adopters like me so, if that’s what you would like, come and join us.
Finally, I want to thank www.theadoptionsocial.com for their support I really appreciate it.