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The Adoption Social Times

TAStimesOur monthly round-up of all things Adoption Social

Weekly Adoption Shout Out
As always, #WASO keeps us busy. We try to read and share as many as we can – but it’s not always possible so we really appreciate when you readers can share #WASO posts too – even just one or two is helpful to the bloggers.

Themes for forthcoming weeks are as follows:
12 February – Personal hygiene
26 February – Extended family

We always love to see your creativity in the form of #TASpic images. Most recently we wanted to see your #firsttime photos and if you want to see them too – just look on Twitter or Instagram with the hashtag #TASpic.
Come and find out soon what the next theme will be, and keep posting your #TASpics.

Britmums adoption & fostering round-up
We’re back onto writing the Britmums Adoption & Fostering round-up as editors. The next round-up is due out at the end of this week – so keep an eye out for it and see if you’re included. If you know of other blogs you think should be included – then let us know.

Britmums Live 2016
We’ll be attending Britmums Live again this year and will of course feedback useful information afterwards. Are you planning on attending? From past experience I can say it’s always informative, inspiring, and friendly, and of course Sarah and I will be there and would love to meet you if you’re going.

Sore Points
Next week sees our #Sorepoints week, it will take place 8th – 14th February. The theme will be sorepoint**Personal Hygiene** – periods, puberty, body odour, hair washing, soiling, wetting and everything else between. We’ll be posting book reviews, hosting a #TASchat and the #WASO theme that week will all be around Personal Hygiene, so make sure you come along to share experiences, pick up advice and chat.

If you’d like to write a guest post on your experiences for publication that week then we’d love to host it. We want to share your experiences so others see they’re not alone – and so we can share tips and advice. So please get in touch if you can share a guest post. Email us at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com.

Adoption Sore Points: Personal hygiene

Have you heard? Our next Adoption Sore Point takes place soon…
sorepoint12 February – 18 February here on www.theadoptionsocial.com and Twitter

As always, our Sore Points week will cover a topic that many might struggle to deal with, or talk about, but many adoptive families have to endure – Personal Hygiene.

What does that mean to you?
Well, it could mean wetting or soiling and all that goes with that – hiding wet or soiled clothing and bedding; refusing to wash after an accident; refusing to even believe or acknowledge there’s been an accident. Or perhaps even smearing, does this sit commonly with soiling?

Body odour and general hygiene; perhaps just because or due to anxiety sweating; or refusing to wash; forgetting to hand wash after toilet trips; puberty; cleaning ears, hair care and nits; hair removal and shaving;

Potty training in youngsters; boy’s aim; dribbling.

Bad breath; refusals to clean teeth, or forgetting; dentists visits.

Puberty; periods; using sanitary protection; thinking about flannels and towels during periods; talking about or discovering new hair; deeper voices; body changes; wet dreams; erections; and all those other new things that happen around/during puberty.

Talking about the importance or personal hygiene with young people, why it’s important and how to maintain cleanliness.

If you, or your young people have problems with any of these, then would you or they feel able to share your/their experiences in a guest post on The Adoption Social?
Perhaps you’ve found a good way of combatting one or more of these issues?  Do you know of or could recommend any good organisations, therapists, books, websites or other resources?
If you have a good tip or resource then we’d like to know about it. You can reach us at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com

Typically our Sore Points weeks look like this:

Monday – Guest post
Tuesday – Guest post
Wednesday – Guest post
Thursday – Book reviews and resources post, #TASchat on Twitter
Friday – Sunday – Weekly Adoption Shout Out (#WASO) themed on Personal Hygiene

So make a note in your diary, and come along and get involved. If you have any ideas of themes for future #AdoptionSore Points, then please do let us know. We’re collating a list and will work our way through.

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Well that’s another year over and a brand new shiny one just beginning. For those of you who celebrate Christmas, how was it?
Weekly Adoption Shout Out
We had an extended break over the Christmas period and decided to keep #WASO open during that time. Lots of blogs have linked up and you can see the list here. Go and have a read?

Themes for forthcoming weeks are as follows:
15 January – If I were a child…
29 January – Dear teacher
12 February – Personal hygiene

TASawardstas awards
Did you get around to voting? Was your favourite tweeter or blogger in the running? Perhaps you were up for an award yourself?
Well, come along NEXT Thursday evening 9pm GMT to our awards party on Twitter and see if you or your nominee have won! Use #tasaward to join in. (We’ve had to change from our previously advertised date – hope you can still make it).

We’ve loved seeing all your #festivefun #taspic images this last month. Come and find out tomorrow what our next theme will be – and keep posting those #taspics and sharing your favourites. It’s nice to see so many using their creative skills photographically.

Sore Points
We’ve been busy planning our next Adoption Sore Points week and as we mentioned last month, it will take place 8th – 14th February. The theme will be Personal Hygiene – periods, puberty, body odour, hair washing, soiling, wetting and everything else between. We’ll be posting book reviews, hosting a #TASchat and the #WASO theme that week will all be around Personal Hygiene, so make sure you come along to share experiences, pick up advice and chat.

If you’d like to write a guest post on your experiences for publication that week then we’d love to host it. Just get in touch at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com.
**We’re looking for professional experience and advice too, so please forward this on to anyone you think might be able to help**

New columnist wanted
We’re sad to tell you that Anna will no longer be writing her fortnightly ‘Anna Writes’ column at The Adoption Social. Anna feels like she’s running out of things to write about, and is concentrating on all sorts of other things, and we wish her all the best for the future. We also send thanks for her thought provoking and interesting posts, and are grateful for those she’s written.
But now, this opens up a new spot here on The Adoption Social. We’ve never really advertised for a columnist before – both Life on the Frontline and Anna Writes came along quite naturally. However, we feel a regular adoptee voice on The Adoption Social has been very worthwhile, interesting, informative and makes the site more inclusive and meaningful. So if you are an adoptee (or birth parent, family member or professional – someone who can offer an alternative viewpoint) and can commit to a regular spot reaching a variety of readers, please get in touch at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com

Guest editor applications still accepted
We’ve had several very good applications for guest editor, but we’re still considering who to take on. This means you’ve still got a little more time to let us know if you’re interested in taking over The Adoption Social in March. Find out more here and get in touch if you’d like to be considered.

That’s all for this month folks…

The Adoption Social Times




Our monthly round-up of all things Adoption Social

Weekly Adoption Shout Out
Many thanks to everyone who has linked up over the last month – there are so many of you blogging and sharing now. It’s great to see how the community has developed and grown over the last few years. Keep on joining in, reading and sharing posts, to keep our amazing community going.
Themes for the forthcoming weeks:
18 December – Looking back
15 January – If I were a child…

***We’re taking a break over Christmas so the above #WASO will open on 18th December and remain open until 3 January. The #WASO after that will be 8 January and is theme free.***

TAS Awards
Well, I mentioned some awards news last month, and here’s more about it. We’re holding our very own awards this year, and winners will be announced in a live Twitter party, 9pm on January 7th. If you want to join in by nominating your favourite blogger, or best twitter friend, then find out more in this post, and drop us a line. Come on, let’s give our online friends and supporters a bit of love.

Our next #TASchat takes place this week. Are you coming along? You’ll find us on Twitter, Thursday evening at 9-10pm. This week we’ll be having a fairly general get to know you chat with a festive twist! I’m bringing the mince pies – will you bring the brandy?
Use the hashtag #taschat to find us all.
Future #TASchats:
January – 7 January – Awards ‘ceremony’
February – 11 February – Personal hygiene
March – 10 March – To be confirmed

Christmas break
We’ll be taking a break over the Christmas period to enjoy some time with our families and maybe plan a little for next year on The Adoption Social (stranger things have happened). So our final #WASO before we break will start on 18 December, and we’ll leave it open during our break – it’ll close on 3 January. During the break we’ll be sharing our most popular posts of 2015 during the week before, and the week following Christmas Day. We’ll be back with brand new posts on 4 January.

As always, TASPic has provided a bit of creative relief for some, and our theme of ‘all for me’ was another popular one. In keeping with the time of year, this month’s theme is ‘festive fun’. See a round up here of some of our favourite images from last month.

Adoption Sore Points
This year we’ve run a couple of our #SorePoints weeks – on subjects that are a little harder to think and talk about, but are important all the same. The next #SorePoints week takes place 8-14 February, and the subject will be ‘Personal Hygiene’ – body odour, refusal to wash, wetting/soiling, periods and puberty too. If you’d like to write a guest post on your experiences of the above, anonymously or named, then please drop us a line at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com as soon as possible. What have you or your child experienced? How have you handled it? What worked? What didn’t? What do you need more help with?

During the #SorePoints week, we’ll be sharing guest posts, book reviews, resources and on the Thursday of that week we’ll be hosting a twitter chat too. So put that date in your diary and come and join in.

A Problem Shared
Have you got an adoption related problem? Want some advice but not sure where to turn? Why not drop us a line at theadoptionsocial@gmail.com? We can include your problem on our ‘A Problem Shared’ page where our supportive community can make suggestions and share advice. You can do it anonymously or in your own name. Previous problems can be found just here, so you never know, someone may have already asked your question…

Some posts you might have missed:

This mum speaks out about disruption. Can you share any more advice?

Thinking about starting your own blog in the new year? We share 5 Top Tips to starting a blog here.

Still looking for presents? Here’s a great and popular post on gifts for children who are destructive.


The Adoption Social Times

TAStimesOur monthly round-up of all things Adoption Social.

Adoption Sore Points
Last week saw another successful Adoption Sore Points week – this time on ‘contact’. The sore points weeks are there to get us talking about things that are often swept under the carpet, not talked about for fear of upset or offence or just generally difficult subjects. This one was no different and we hosted a large number of guest posts with varying views and experiences from birth families members, adoptive family members, adopted people and a professional working within adoption.
There were plenty of comments on these posts, some in support of, some in disagreement and we were pleased to see some real discussion taking place and consideration of differing views.

We also had another helpful and informative #taschat twitter chat session, and you can see the round-up here on Storify (though not all comments were included as some forgot the all important twitter #…next time we’ll give you more reminders to use it!).

Very many thanks to everyone who contributed in anyway, we’re very grateful to you for making these interesting weeks as full, informative and conversational as you do!

Our next Sore Point week will be taking place mid-September, we’ll remind you nearer the time and let you know the theme too.

Weekly Adoption Shout Out
Our most recent Weekly Adoption Shout Out was themed for our Adoption Sore Points week – on contact. So if you look back at the latest WASO, you’ll see a number of posts on that topic, but not all, so do have a read through.

Theme wise, we’ve got:

31 July – In the car
14 August – So far, we’ve…
28 August – Books

Loving all the #Taspic photos you’re sharing. For those of you who don’t know, our current #taspic theme is #smallthings, though from August, it’ll be changing, so keep an eye out next week for the next #taspic theme post.

If you don’t know about #taspic and are intrigued, then here’s the last post which explains a bit about it, and there’s a feed over there on the right, where we share all the Instagram pics we can that have the #taspic hashtag.

Twitter chatting
We’ve really enjoyed hosting a few recent Twitter chats, and I’m therefore pleased to announce that we have been asked to host a Twitter chat for the Adoption Support Fund Expert Advisory Group – which includes our friends Al Coates @nadjasmit, Sally Donovan @sallydwrites and Jenny Jones @ins_foundations. We’ll be hosting this on 6th August, and inviting you to share your views of the Adoption Support Fund with Al, Sally and Jenny. We’ll give you more details nearer the time and let you know the hashtags that we’ll be using too.

Meet The Blogger
It’s been a while since we last published a Meet The Blogger post, but when The Giggles Family contacted us and asked to fill in a questionnaire, we were reminded of how much fun they are and how much they tell us about YOU.
If you haven’t yet been a featured Meet The Blogger, then please get in touch and we’ll email you the interview. They really are a great way of sharing a bit about yourself without giving away any personal details, and the best bit is that you choose the questions you want to answer and don’t have to reply to anything you don’t want to. The only condition is that you have to have a blog of your own.

And as always, here are a few posts you might have missed:

It took a while, but we finally got a response back from Edward Timpson after our #WASO special in November.

We posted an alarming Problem Shared, where a child went missing.

Anna’s been writing about self esteem, self harm and coping.