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Life on the Frontline – Week 40

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A weekly blog from a family made by adoption, warmed by the laughter, broken by the sadness, held together by love with a big dollop of hope, oh, and often soaked in mummy tears.

We reached the end of term, over a week ago with a massive shunt. Tall was hardly in school, due to his inability to cope, whilst Small hurtled towards the end of year six. There were numerous assemblies, a prom and special year six activities in school for youngest, and he managed most of these things with great purpose and a desire to be included. How far we’ve come with him since the beginning of this school year. However, for me, managing these activities, whilst dealing with the whirling emotions of Tall, was full on. To add to the mayhem of finishing on the Friday, Saturday was Small’s birthday.

He wanted a party at home with games and a mad hatter’s tea party. Whilst I was, in the most, really pleased that he chose to honour his own emotional needs in a birthday party (no requests for paintballing to fall in line with his piers) it did leave me with a lot to organise and do.

Finding games that eleven year old boys and one eleven year old girl will be prepared to participate in, is not easy, even with the internet at your finger tips. But with a few toilet rolls at my disposal, a selection of silly dares and a large bag of sweets, we managed to have a lot of fun for over an hour. The weather was also kind so we could be in the garden.

They all then sat down to a tea party where lemonade was poured from tea pots and crisp sandwiches were on the menu. I think it all went well, but to be honest it’s all a little bit of a blur. Sunday I sat and stared, a lot, and cuddled children on the sofa whilst watching anything, even that American rubbish, without complaining.

So the holidays have begun and to be honest it’s not been that bad. There has been a noted alteration in Tall’s demeanour; he’s much more relaxed and happier (did you hear that school he IS more relaxed at home) and he even attended a full week of sports club at his own request. Small and I have chilled, watched films, been for a swim, been shopping and chilled some more. He then asked if he too could go to sports club on Thursday.

Now there are very obvious reasons for my separating the boys on some days in the holidays, it makes life easier.

“Please, please can Small come today” begged Tall, in a moment of brotherly love.

“Please, please” sang Small.

I went against my better judgement,agreed and off they went, almost arm in arm, to a day of multi sports.

By the end of the day they were still friends, had, according to the coach, been supportive of each other and got on well.  Phew a relief.

The next morning Small began again “please, please can I go, they’re playing dodge ball today and that’s my favourite”.

Again, with reservations, I said yes and off they went bickering all the way out the door. I knew then what the day would hold.

I cautiously called in before lunch, just to see how things were going. I was asked by the coach to “have a word” with them both.  I had that word but came away feeling anxious about the afternoon ahead.

I cancelled my afternoon shopping trip with my mum and sat at home crocheting. Partly because I wanted to be close in case of a phone call and partly because I knew I’d need to be in a good frame of mind later.

Both boys lasted the day, of which I am really proud of them for, but we then had to sit through the prize giving for the week. Neither Tall nor Small claimed a prize for their sportsmanship however Tall managed a prize for attending for a full week. Both came away deflated, tired and grumpy.

Thankfully I remembered on the way home, a moment of genius, that I had ordered them both some books from the local book shop. I quickly called in and picked them up and headed home. Both boys took their books and went off to find a corner to read in. I was astonished. No pleading for computers, no both boys buried their head in a book. This was a very welcomed first.

The evening ended calmly and with both boys happy to go to an early bed with a new book tucked under their arm.  For once we had achieved the almost impossible, a calm bedtime after a difficult day.

In Other News

Small’s favourite teddy bear went missing after his party. I searched for over twenty four hours without success and I was beginning to feel quite stressed until he was discovered in the bin. It seems, allegedly that Daddy, who tends to have a wombling style to his tidying, might be to blame.

Because our lives aren’t busy enough, we started doing some decorating this week too. Why do we do these things to ourselves?

I’ve just returned from a wonderful night away with a friend, it was so much fun and a much welcome break.  I was feeling rejuvenated for all of around an hour.

 

 

 

 

Summer #Memorybox

MBbadgeSummer holidays in full swing? No time to blog? Then we have just the thing for you!

 

We know that during the holidays when you have the children to entertain, holidays to plan and pack for, uniform shopping to contend with, and activity days & playdates to chauffeur your children to, blogging isn’t the top of your to-do list, so we fully understand if you don’t get around to linking up to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out over the next few weeks.

So we’ve decided to bring back #Memorybox for the duration of the holidays so even if you can’t write a whole blog post, perhaps you can link up a photo or short post, or share a memory with us. You don’t even have to have a blog to join in this one – you can link up tweets or Instagram photos. Show us your summer memories and positive moments. The linky is open now, and will remain open until the end of 11 September.

Sharing your positive moments might encourage others who having a more challenging time, and they’re a lovely way to remember the best bits of your summer. So come on, get sharing.



Summer Sandpit 4/8/14

Week 2 of our special summer linky – Summer Sandpit!

This week we’re very pleased to welcome Crafts on Sea as our guest blogger. She’s writing about crafts which is our optional theme this week..by the way, we’re keeping each of these Summer Sandpit links open ALL SUMMER – so if you don’t do crafts this week, don’t worry, you can still come back and link up at the end of the holidays.

Thank you so much to Vicki and Sarah for inviting me to share some craft ideas with you! Before I start I’m going to say that I am not a super amazing crafty person that leaps out of bed every morning thinking about gross motor skills and ways to develop learning. I’m very much a normal, permanently tired parent just trying to think up some stuff to do with the kids that they will enjoy and that will help to keep them away from too much tv! These are some of the things that have kept my son entertained so hopefully they will help you too. I also share a lot of tutorials for crafts and activities for kids and grown ups on my Facebook page so do come and take a look!

Decorating Mugs

These mugs make a great gift and are fun to make too. Despite what you might read on Pinterest Sharpie pens won’t work but I’ve found a pen that does. My son cake-case-flowers1loves to draw super heroes or the directions to the local soft play on these!

Cake Case Flowers

This is such an easy craft to do and best of all you’re likely to already have everything you need!Seashell-craft-ideas1

Sea Shell Wall Hanging

My son and I made this cute wall hanging together, it makes a great reminder of days out that you have together.

Painted Garland

My son had some issues around going to playgroup and making this garland together to showcase the art he had made there really helped remind him that he had fun there!! 

DIY Kids Moustache T Shirt

I made this simple printed T Shirt with my son looking on but toddlers or older kids could easily join in, it’s a great way to get them creating something for themselves. 

A big thank you to Crafts on Sea for her post, and for sharing some of her wonderful craft activities. Over to you now, add up your posts about the crafty things that you and your children have been up to…