Collective response – A Weekly Adoption Shout Out midweek special

Yesterday, The Guardian published an article entitled ‘What’s in a name? For adopted children, rather, a lot’.
You can find it here:, the author talks about names in the context of adoption.

There was a bit of a stir on Twitter about this particular article (have a read to see why) and as a result we’ve decided to set up this midweek special Weekly Adoption Shout Out, where you can post your blog responses to the article. It’s live now until midday tomorrow Wednesday 10 July. We’ll contact The Guardian after the linky closes to submit our/your responses.

So please, write your response on your own blog, then link-up here. If you don’t have a blog but would like to join in, then please contact us here, and we could consider adding your own written response to our Blogless Blogging section here on The Adoption Social. Please only use this linky for responses to the above article, and don’t worry, our normal Weekly Adoption Shout Out will go live on Friday as usual.

4 thoughts on “Collective response – A Weekly Adoption Shout Out midweek special

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  2. notthemummy

    So Mr McAlpine , how wrong you are , gladly way off the mark .

    So firstly here,s my past .I have a baby shaped void in my life , and always will have for the rest of my life . Anyone that has learnt to live with infertility will have . So instead of getting myself a hamster or a dog , because a hamster won,t keep you up at night and a dog will never pee on the carpet or bite you . I have four cats and a new decorated spare room with room for a child .
    A child that we fully expect to come with invisible baggage and a past . We are currently waiting to go to panel , to be passed as foster carers .
    So how did we get here , because we a middle class childless white married couple ( all boxes ticked) , well you,d think so , but as most things it not that simplistic.
    In year 11 , one of my best friends invited me back to her house for tea , so when i walked in there was Mrs N , in the kitchen with a baby on her hip . I apologise for any non Pc terms , but Mrs N was white , the baby was mixed heritage and my friend C , well as i never known about her birth family , i guessing she,s Afro Caribbean. Then Mr N walked in with C ‘s brother , who weirdly i knew from school but never noticed he was white too .
    I said nothing , being the polite well brought up girl ,
    So later my friend C explained laughing , that she loved seeing the looks on peoples faces when they met her family .Her mum fostered then adopted her , her brother and sister and the baby was staying with them while mum was in hospital .Mrs N , over her career fostered over 100 children .
    Even 12 year old me , thought what a cool job , maybe when i grow up , i could do that .
    So here i am , all grown up , even more so the last year .I started reading adoption blogs , as research and for tips . The first one i came across was Sally,s , to be honest it scared the pants off me , children eating food out of bin bags , hitting , swearing , blunt honest but best of all funny and warm .
    The blog roll , rolled to the point i at now , to maybe “knowing” 20 adoptive parents and a couple of foster carers ( which is a point in case , we use the term carers so the children are not confused by the titles of mum , mummy , dad etc .)
    Knowledge is power , Mr McAlpine , please do us the courtesy of researching the training for foster carers.

    – life work books , we must along with daily records , make photo album of their time with us , that moves with the child and stays their property.

    – identity is a big part of the training , how to nuture their own past and roots

    Life with a child that to quote people that maybe don,t quite understand fostering ” thats not yours” , will always be different. Of course it will be , and hopefully if i ever have the huge honour of working with my child over the two weeks of introductions and process of moving to their forever family . I can pass any knowlege of the child past over with them , with their life work book , any memories and albums .
    Reading the blogs on this site , i learnt from people , far from queasy about the birth family , try hard to reassure the child that it,s ok , to still know and want to find out about their stories.
    We watch , and tweet about ” long lost family ” and even now i have Jeremy Kyle on in the back ground , with a twenty year old man , crying because he found out the man that raised him is neither his dad or half brother . Mum had a affair with her father in law so his grandfather could have been his dad , so he now has no idea of his parentage . Very hard to watch , and yes i did cry a bit for him .
    My friend who adopted two young brothers , have given them a middle name , a perfect blend of both parents choices , you’ll find that many of these people that pass though your panel will do this .
    So remember that we can’t wipe the slate clean , anyone that thinks that will be so disillusioned that they could fall of their unicorn .
    As my mum would say , we and the rest of Adoption Social , are just making the best of a bad job .

  3. tasocial Post author

    Big thanks to all of you who have written blog in response to this article. We’ll now submit them as a collective response.


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